Stripper Parties !!!

[Cheesevixen]

So this weekend I had my bachlorette party. My best friend/maid of honor set it all up, and everyone knew what she had planned. We rented a limo, went to a very upscale strip club called Le Bears (Men Strippers), and then danced the morning away at a common club.

Within' the night I got a stage dance, and a lap dance, and pictures were taken, my best friend threw up like 6 times, and my other friend passed out. All in all it was a good night for us...except the ones who got sick/passed out.

That morning my best friends boyfriend starts going through her camera, and he finds a picture. It looked like her face was near the stripper's butt while he was giving me a lap dance.In fact she had been laughing so hard at that moment that she was bent over in her chair, and the butt of the stripper just happened to be in the background. I admit it looked bad, but the size of the two images didn't match up, and I never saw her go near the stripper.

So after finding this picture he starts lysoling everything down, and telling her that she is immoral and probably disease ridden. She calls me and I talk her through it like I always do. I, however, remember that he is supposed to be at my wedding to usher and video record. So I ask him if he is still going to go through with it. Than he texts me back saying he will do it as long as I don't touch or breathe on him because I too might have a disease.I told Tom (my fiance) who in turn forbid him from coming to the wedding.

My question is: do you think Tom is taking it too far by forbidding her boyfriend from coming to the wedding?

I understand he should not have insinuated I have some kind of disease, nor that I am somehow immoral, but I don't want to hurt my best friend.


My second question is: What do you think my friend should do about her now very cleanly boyfriend?

What do you think about Male/Female strip clubs?

Would you be ok with your loved one going to a strip club?

Shouldn't my best friend stick up for me instead of being angry that her boyfriend can't come to the wedding?

***Keep in mind there was no nudity at all at this strip club. Just men dancing around in thier underwear. ***

[loner-kid]

quick question first, Why the hell does he think you're disease ridden? it was a strip club not a bloody brothel

do you think Tom is taking it too far by forbidding her boyfriend from coming to the wedding?
Not really, he's likely to ruin the day for some people, namely you and anyone who went to the stripclub, by insinuating that they are disease ridden.

What do you think my friend should do about her now very cleanly boyfriend?
She should try and work out why he thinks she is immoral and probably disease ridden. There might be a reason, like a past experience or an ex, why he thinks like that about people who go to strip clubs. Probably not but it's worth trying to talk things out and see his point of view.

What do you think about Male/Female strip clubs?
I can honestly say I've never put much thought into it but I suppose I really don't mind provided no one is exploited. In some ways it's just another form of entertainment

Would you be ok with your loved one going to a strip club?
Well I've never really been in this situation so it's really speculation but probably not, I mean i'd rather they went some where else but if it came down to it I probably wouldn't mind

Shouldn't my best friend stick up for me instead of being angry that her boyfriend can't come to the wedding?
I think she should, he's clearly in the wrong. Throwing around baseless accusations is in no way acceptable and shouldn't just be forgiven willy nilly.

[Cheesevixen]

quick question first, Why the hell does he think you're disease ridden? it was a strip club not a bloody brothel

He read up on the place and supposedly found out that one of the dancers there had herpes or something. I didn't know you could get herpes from looking at someone; good to know...*sarcasm of course* I find the information useful to an extent, but mostly antagonistic.

[Phantom]

My question is: do you think Tom is taking it too far by forbidding her boyfriend from coming to the wedding?




Nope, not at all. If it was my wedding I wouldn't let him come. Who wants someone around that's gonna spoil a special occasion by being a rude ignorant prick? Especially a rude ignorant prick that is calling me or my friends immortal and disease ridden.

My second question is: What do you think my friend should do about her now very cleanly boyfriend?



I would say dump him, but I think he needs some kind of theorpy. If he changes take him back, if not, dump his ass.

What do you think about Male/Female strip clubs?


Your seriously asking me this? I love Male Strip clubs! Hot bodied studs getting down and dirty in speedos and boxers with some near nudity. Yeah Male Stripper clubs ftw.

Would you be ok with your loved one going to a strip club?


Yeah I would. It's there life, they should do whatever they wanna do.

Shouldn't my best friend stick up for me instead of being angry that her boyfriend can't come to the wedding?


Same with loner kid on this one. He had no right pointing fingers and making accusations to you both without any real concrete evidence.

[Storm]

My second question is: What do you think my friend should do about her now very cleanly boyfriend?
If I were in her shoes I would explain the story and how it wasn't being disloyal, and that herself and none of the women with her did anything intimate with the strippers. It may take a while to make him feel comfortable, and it may just be a little patch of relationship trouble, but if he continues to be an arse by bringing things up and jumping to conclusions, she should consider whether there is any point of her being in a relationship with him if he can't trust her.

What do you think about Male/Female strip clubs?
It's an entertainment business, much like a theatrical play or concert is. People make a living from being performers, and people pay money for a performance, to enjoy themselves.

Would you be ok with your loved one going to a strip club?
I wouldn't have a man as my boyfriend if I couldn't trust him. Stripper parties are common for hen/stag nights, a bit of cheeky (excuse the pun), harmless fun. As loner-kid said before, its nothing like a brothel.

Shouldn't my best friend stick up for me instead of being angry that her boyfriend can't come to the wedding?
If I were her I would. There is nothing worse than tension in what is supposed to be a celebration of love, and it seems likely that he would cause some unease. Why should he be welcome to the marriage of a woman he believes is as much of a filth as he claims you to be. It doesn't sound like he'd want to go anyway, and she should realise that.

[Furore]

My question is: do you think Tom is taking it too far by forbidding her boyfriend from coming to the wedding?

Not really. A wedding's a one time thing and you really don't want anything like that ****ing it up. Think:

Priest: *something about objecting or holding piece or whatever*
Dude: I OBJECT ON THE GROUNDS SHE'S FILTHY!!! BLARBLARBLAR!!!!

Or similar.

I understand he should not have insinuated I have some kind of disease, nor that I am somehow immoral, but I don't want to hurt my best friend.

Sometimes it's best to deal with things as quickly as they pop up. Otherwise they may haunt you later. If your friend is really your friend, she'll get over it eventually.

My second question is: What do you think my friend should do about her now very cleanly boyfriend?

Go over the facts very slowly that she didn't do shit with another guy's goods. Or any other part for that matter. The guy sounds pretty unreasonable to me thus far, but all I have is the image you've presented me here. Strippers and the like for those occasions is fairly normal unless you're heavily sheltered.

What do you think about Male/Female strip clubs?

I'm alright with them, but I don't tend to like them as the ones I've been to have been dominated by strippers with fake boobs and experiences with a past girl who had them have kind of put me off the things. Don't feel right they don't. These days if I am in one it's to discuss business with someone who thinks he's all that and insists on having a meeting at one of the places.

Would you be ok with your loved one going to a strip club?

Yeah. Although I'd be greatly disheartened if the girl I was in love with at any given time decided to indulge in more than the sights which does happen on occasion. I wouldn't do that to noone and expect the same.

Shouldn't my best friend stick up for me instead of being angry that her boyfriend can't come to the wedding?

Priorities. You can't always expect to come first even if you put a specific person ahead of others yourself. But if I were her I probably would have slapped him for being an idiot. You can't get AIDs solely from staring at a guy's ass up close. At least not that I know of.

But I will mention that even if a stripper is wearing underwear, it is more than possible to get a full service if you know how to play your cards right. One of the guys I work with knows how to play the majority of working girls like marionettes. Feign you're only there with a friend, act like the lapdance only gave you half a bar, complain about the price, generally act like an asshole and then do whatever the specific encounter requires. I believe the last time he found out she had a guy who she was sleeping with, he asked if the guy got her off and she said she thought he did before he stated that she's 'know' if he was that good and then he bet he could likely make her feel better with his tongue than that guy could with his **** and things sort of went from there. I watch the man do his little act and wonder at exactly how it works...

The disrespect thing seems odd to me, but meh...
To each his/her own.

[Neo Necron]

With all due respect, it seems to me like both guys are completely over-reacting and a bigger deal has been made of all this than really is necessary. Everybody should go to the wedding who was supposed to go, and they should all do at the wedding what they were supposed to do. It's that simple.

If there was any mistake made at all here, it was probably your friend not asking her boyfriend what he thought of her going to a strip club. Still, I see it as only a small mistake. A strip club is a common venue for a bachelorette party. I don't see why its that big a deal (especially if there was no nudity). If your friend's boyfriend is offended by such things, then just respect that he is offended by these things, accept the mistake was made, apologise, and move on with things as originally planned.

I hope your wedding goes really well and its a fantastic day for you, and to quote Napoleon Dynamite, "I hope your guys's experiences are unforgettable".

[Sean]

if he's an usher... he's part of the wedding party for your fiance, yes? Meaning he (or someone) has dropped $100ish bucks on a tux.

Being "that guy" myself, I understand how he could let seeing a picture make him... pissed. He overreacted, and, unless he retracts his statement and apologizes, then he shouldn't go to your wedding, otherwise... shit happens.


Personally, I'm not a big fan of strip clubs. My significant other (when I have one) is usually more than enough for me, assuming it's a relationship that's reached the sexual level.

I wouldn't care too much if my girlfriend were to go to a strip club, however. I might let the jealous thing hit me for a bit, but as long as there wasn't a picture of like... balls in her face, I'd be alright in the end. For a "common" strip club experience, though... dont' ask, don't tell. "Hey, how was that lapdance you got" "ZOMG AMAZING" Yeah.. dont' care.

I think your friend should do what she wants in this situation. Obviously her boyfriend is overreacting, but so is yours. She may side with her boyfriend, she may side with you. Guys like to say "bros before hoes" all the time and we rarely, if ever, follow through on that. I'm sure the same applies to wimmins.

[Unknown Entity]

quick question first, Why the hell does he think you're disease ridden? it was a strip club not a bloody brothel

Thats what I was going to say...

My question is: do you think Tom is taking it too far by forbidding her boyfriend from coming to the wedding?
I don't think it is going too far, just far enough to keep everyone out of trouble. Your wedding shouldn't be ruined because of someone's opinion on how you spent your hen night.

My second question is: What do you think my friend should do about her now very cleanly boyfriend?
I'd make a joke out of it, but I wouldn't advise her to do it.
She needs to talk to him about how stupid he is being.

What do you think about Male/Female strip clubs?
I've never been to one, and I probably won't until my hen do (if I ever get that far that is). So I don't really have an opinion on them. I guess as long as everything remains "clean" in them, as in no kind of prostitution, then they are good in my book.

Would you be ok with your loved one going to a strip club?
Like I said above: as long as it remained "clean", I wouldn't mind. No sex and no touching. Just watching.

Shouldn't my best friend stick up for me instead of being angry that her boyfriend can't come to the wedding?
loner-kid said it all really.

[Cheesevixen]

With all due respect, it seems to me like both guys are completely over-reacting and a bigger deal has been made of all this than really is necessary.

If there was any mistake made at all here, it was probably your friend not asking her boyfriend what he thought of her going to a strip club.
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I completely agree; they are both over acting.I feel that if I tell my fiance that he is coming whether he likes it or not, and I go out on a limb and the guy does cause a scene. I will have had my day ruined, and it would be completely my fault. I don't like the idea of him staring at my friends like we're whores. He has done it before when he came with me and my bff to a club by me. Just sat, arms crossed, eying us, and trying not to have any fun.

The funny thing is...she did tell him what we were going to be doing. They live together...hard to keep something like that. She planned a month or so ahead of time. He had plenty of time to say something, and instead he told her he was ok with it. I ...seeing as I know the guy....kind of knew this would happen, and expressed that to my friend, but she believed otherwise.

[winterborn86]

My question is: do you think Tom is taking it too far by forbidding her boyfriend from coming to the wedding?

Nope, this guy is over-reacting, and saying he don't you to touch him or breath on him is being rude, and you don't want that to spoil your day.

My second question is: What do you think my friend should do about her now very cleanly boyfriend?

She should tell him that he is being stupid, she's not likely to have picked up anything from this stripper unless she went and slept with him, which she clearly hasn't.

What do you think about Male/Female strip clubs?

I have mixed opinions on them, depending on the type it is. Some strip clubs are upmarket and never go fully nude, those types I don't have a problem with.
My problem lies with the ones who strip to total nakedness, the person might have a good body but to me I can't undrestand why people would want to do it, it's degrading to themselves and for a woman, does she know what disgusting, pervy men are sitting there enjoying the show.

Would you be ok with your loved one going to a strip club?

No. I've told him this already. I'm not comfortable knowing that some girl is rubbing her breats in my partners face, and in the cheap seedy ones it is likely that people might be carrying some sort on STD.


Shouldn't my best friend stick up for me instead of being angry that her boyfriend can't come to the wedding?

If she was really a best friend she should of defended you, when her bf said he don't want you to touch him, that was uncalled for.

[Neo Necron]

He had plenty of time to say something, and instead he told her he was ok with it.

Then it's simple: anything he's pissed off about is entirely his fault.

Still, your friend should apologise (even if she doesn't really need to) to start to try and put it behind them both and he should still come along to the wedding. Everybody should chalk all this down to experience and move on.

[winterborn86]

[I have mixed opinions on them, depending on the type it is. Some strip clubs are upmarket and never go fully nude, those types I don't have a problem with.
My problem lies with the ones who strip to total nakedness, the person might have a good body but to me I can't undrestand why people would want to do it, it's degrading to themselves and for a woman, does she know what disgusting, pervy men are sitting there enjoying the show.]

I just to put right an error here. Misstress sheena pointed out to me that I had put that it was degrading to be a stripper, but that was not intended to be put that way. It was totally my own opinion and as Misstress Sheena pointed out to me I hadn't stated that, and I want to apologise and I just wanted to put that right. I hope that no one was ofended by it, it was honestly put in the wrong way, a complete error on my behalf.

[Victoria]

To answer the questions of the topic;
If you're in a closed relationship, you shouldn't really go to strip clubs unless they're the style of not going nude, as winterborn said.

But if you're in an open relationship like me, then by all means, go to a full nude strip club.

I also somewhat agree with Necron. Your friend should apologize, but.. I don't think he should go to the wedding. It's obvious he'd be better off if he didn't go. He'd just ruin it.