How to get better?

[do re mi ti la]

All life been suffering mental illness. Was adhd as child then 16 started being depressed/suicidal and been dealing with it even now at 23

Docs think I'm bipolar, I'm pretty religious and when I'm good I'm good and stuff but when I'm bad I just wannna die and feel like god hates me and everything sucks

Been bad for 48 hours now and can't take it

Tried every med from mood stabalizers to antideeprssants which are bad for bipolar people

Idk what to do anymore I wanna stop feeling this but without being beliving in god. I want to just live a normal athiest life where I only pray when stuff gets serious

Tried everythting from meditation, positibe thinking; yoga, cbt, dbt

Just idk anymore

Video ggsames used to comfoft me, not anymore though

Pleas help


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[Michael Swayne]

A tried and true method for getting out of a slump. The Elle Woods Way.

Exercise.

"Exercising increases endorphins.
Endorphins make you happy.
Happy people don't kill themselves (she says "their husbands" but it's the same concept)."

Or you could listen to my Dad.

"Pick yourself up by your bootstraps and overcome the obstacle."

All that said, it could be something dietary that is making you feel this way. If you have played The Sims 2, you know that some foods can make you feel differently. The same goes for in real life as well. The anti-stress diet talks about all kinds of foods that can make a person feel happier, calmer, etc.

But it could also be that you are putting yourself in these situations. If gaming doesn't help you anymore, try playing something less violent (like an addictive puzzle or platformer). If it is trouble with coworkers or friends; avoid the coworkers, make new friends. The amount of sleep you get each night can make a person feel in the dumps. Heck, even the color of clothing you wear has an effect on a person's mood.

What you need to do is take a look at your life, and decide what you can deal with and what you should change or even get rid of. Psychologists, psychiatrists, and religious leaders are some people who can help, but it really depends on what you decide to do. You are twenty-three now. You need to be the one who makes the decision, not someone else.

And if all that doesn't work, find someone who is willing to tell you this stuff to your face. Get them to grab you by your shoulders and shake you until the words get through.

[Bubble Boy]

Before you think that everything sucks, just be thankful that you're not being worked to death in a North Korean Labor Camp, just sayin'....

[Crescent]

These things help me get through everyday ups&downs:

-Exercise 1-2 hrs everyday
-Not giving a f**k what the rest of the world does/think/say
-Something stable that you can immerse yourself in and forget your problems- For me-FFVII NEVER fails.
-True/loyal friends.
-Healthy food. Eating junk foods with empty calories/no-nil nutrients all or most of the time contributes to a lot of mental illness out there.

Look after yourself yeah.

[Yoko]

If you're sad out of your mind, surround yourself with things that make you happy. This is something you need to do for yourself. It took me 2 years to get out of depression. It starts with being happy that you're living and breathing. Then I had friend who gave me advice. Positivity is KEY!!! If you wanna vent, send me a PM. I know the in and outs of my own depression. I can give you advice.

You'll be okay man, believe me.

[Order]

It takes a lot of willpower to get out of a slump.
I know quite a few people who struggle with borderline disorder which isnt far from bipolar.
The medications cant fix the problem everytime, you have to give it everything youve got to pull through sometimes.
Personally, i found that pretending to be happy allowed me to accidentally become happy. Sounds stupid, but my friends started acting more positive around me and that helped more than anything.

Like the rest said, excersize is a huge help. Even if you cant do much and feel uncomfortable, give it an honest effort for two weeks and you will feel the difference.

[Michael Swayne]

Okay, judging from the post you made similar to this one (that you also made) you have not even tried following any of the advice we have given. And the reason I am not posting in your ID thread is because I don't think the thread even belongs in ID.

Now, this topic is a very serious one that I believe anyone feeling this way can benefit from, not just you. You can't expect a complete change in 12 hours (the time between when we started offering advice and your ID post). But one thing you can't do is feel sorry for yourself. If you feel sorry for yourself, then you are just making the problem worse.

Sure, life is hard for everyone at times. I mean, my parents were both sent to prison two years ago and I had to manage a house as well as make sure my siblings don't starve. I wasn't happy about the drastic change in my life, but I didn't feel sorry for myself. Some days are difficult, but you have to remember that every day is what you make of it. If you wake up each morning feeling like the day is going to be bad, then it will most likely be bad. But only because you are making it that way.

Another saying I like is "It takes more muscles to frown than it takes to smile." Meaning that it takes more work to frown than it does to smile.

But, and I can't stress this enough, you can't feel sorry for yourself!!!!!! And by not giving yourself the chance to get better, you are only hurting yourself. The people here at TFF genuinely care about fellow members, regardless of how long they've been a member. We will try to help in any way we can. But by not attempting to follow our advice, you are basically saying screw you.

So remember, at least put in an effort to change. And again, don't feel sorry for yourself.

[do re mi ti la]

Okay, judging from the post you made similar to this one (that you also made) you have not even tried following any of the advice we have given. And the reason I am not posting in your ID thread is because I don't think the thread even belongs in ID.

Now, this topic is a very serious one that I believe anyone feeling this way can benefit from, not just you. You can't expect a complete change in 12 hours (the time between when we started offering advice and your ID post). But one thing you can't do is feel sorry for yourself. If you feel sorry for yourself, then you are just making the problem worse.

Sure, life is hard for everyone at times. I mean, my parents were both sent to prison two years ago and I had to manage a house as well as make sure my siblings don't starve. I wasn't happy about the drastic change in my life, but I didn't feel sorry for myself. Some days are difficult, but you have to remember that every day is what you make of it. If you wake up each morning feeling like the day is going to be bad, then it will most likely be bad. But only because you are making it that way.

Another saying I like is "It takes more muscles to frown than it takes to smile." Meaning that it takes more work to frown than it does to smile.

But, and I can't stress this enough, you can't feel sorry for yourself!!!!!! And by not giving yourself the chance to get better, you are only hurting yourself. The people here at TFF genuinely care about fellow members, regardless of how long they've been a member. We will try to help in any way we can. But by not attempting to follow our advice, you are basically saying screw you.

So remember, at least put in an effort to change. And again, don't feel sorry for yourself.

I been dealing with this long time and can't say I don't follow advicre

But basically everyone saying oh just get over it

Not how mental illness works

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MERGED POSTS

U don't know what I tried. I work out and eat healthy as can be.
Meditae. Yoga. Cbt and dbt

Its not gonna get better, its best I die today

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[Crescent]

I gave you advice on what I do for myself to address those problems.. It is up to you whether or not they suit your needs an whether you want to take them on board. But...

No one can help you if you dont want to help yourself.


!In NO way am I implying for you to simply "get over it"..the things I suggested take time to take effect, as with anything else. Your mind can be your best friend or your worst enemy. Right now its the latter..Maybe find some funny youtube videos to watch. Make yourself laugh for the mean time. Take it easy on yourself!

[Michael Swayne]

When did any of us say to just get over it? Each one of us have given our methods of dealing with situations similar (in everyone's eyes except yours) to yours. We are just trying to help. But with you saying

Its not gonna get better, its best I die today

then it makes us feel like we are trying to push a brick wall with our bare hands.

And if your condition is really that bad, it is probably best that you commit yourself in a mental institution. You are not only a danger to yourself but to others as well when these dark thoughts are in your mind. Think of all the shootings and attacks that have occurred in your lifetime because someone was having similar thoughts.

And if a friend or family member is in need of some quick cash, have them commit you. The mental institution in a city near me offers $250 if you commit someone (something about getting the crazies off the streets, or so I've heard). All jokes aside, you can't make yourself believe that things are not going to get better. You have to get those thoughts out of your head by filling it with thoughts that things will get better.

And if you are so convinced that things aren't going to get any better, then why are you sitting there complaining about it? Time spent complaining is better spent making your life better. What you need to do is go out into the world and find someone who is truly in a worse position than you are. What part of the world do you live in? I am sure I can find resources or organizations in your local area that are willing to help.

Finally, if you have tried all the methods we suggested, then look for other ways to help. Each case is different. What works for one may not work for all. But doing nothing about it is not going to work.

[Yoko]

Me telling you to send me a PM isn't telling you to get over it. I want to understand what you're going through because I WANT TO HELP YOU! I have taken psychology courses. I have had depression and helped others with depression as well. If you need someone to talk to, I am here. Any message that is sent to me here goes straight to my phone. I can reply within minutes. Day or night.

Depression is a serious matter among these forums. Almost everyone here has dealt with it, or helped another. We all care very deeply about other forum members.

So, do re mi, how can I help you? Please let me know. Don't be afraid to ask.

[do re mi ti la]

Me telling you to send me a PM isn't telling you to get over it. I want to understand what you're going through because I WANT TO HELP YOU! I have taken psychology courses. I have had depression and helped others with depression as well. If you need someone to talk to, I am here. Any message that is sent to me here goes straight to my phone. I can reply within minutes. Day or night.

Depression is a serious matter among these forums. Almost everyone here has dealt with it, or helped another. We all care very deeply about other forum members.

So, do re mi, how can I help you? Please let me know. Don't be afraid to ask.

Idk

Guys I'm sorry for makking this thbread

Tbh no one can help me, I'm 23 and been suffering forever spend sooooooo much on mental healthn care

I know what I must do, please mods close this thread

It was nice to meet u guys and talk about final fantasy

Take care

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[Yoko]

Dude, the offer is still there if you need. I'm 23 and battling my own depression. I know how I can help..........

[do re mi ti la]

Dude, the offer is still there if you need. I'm 23 and battling my own depression. I know how I can help..........

What u think I should do?

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[Yoko]

Start by sending a PM explaining what you're going through. From that I can pinpoint exactly what you should do. Just be honest.

[RagnaToad]

Before I say anything else: Stay on the meds the doctor thinks are best for you, or the meds that work best. Keep consulting a doctor and/or therapist if you have a history of mental illness.

Apart from the medical aspect of you being depressed, this is what I would recommend myself:

Find a passion and be ****ing good at it.

Be the person you want to be. Dress the way you want to dress, do the things that interest you.

Be social, make friends even if you don't feel like it. People can appear mean, but most people just want to live life and have fun. And having people around you actually helps, even if being depressed makes you want to avoid people.

Be prepared to love certain things, and say '**** this' about other things.

[Tallulah]

I feel for you, I really do, and I wish there was some magic potion to fix you.

I've been there before, and quite recently as well. My first question would be has anything happened recently that has triggered this bout of depression? With me usually something happens to make me fall into a bit of a state. When my grandad died, when I asked a former partner to move out, and most recently, when my most recent ex finished with me, I have been in some very dark places. Even sometimes, I get depressed for no reason from time to time.

I saw another thread that mentions you have money worries. This certainly doesn't help at all. Have a word with someone at your college (they may be able to provide you with a crisis loan) and your HMO, who may go easy on you when it comes to payment. Don't be afraid to ask for help. I feel really fortunate to live in the UK, where healthcare is mostly free, so I don't know any particulars about payment relief or welfare in the US, or wherever you are. Talk to your local authority about welfare and see if they can advise you. Help is available for those who need it.

As others have said, changing your diet and taking regular exercise really does help. During my recent dark times. Sweating and working out the anger, disappointment, hate, grief, sorrow really helped, as did cutting back on junk food. Writing also helps. It helps to get your feelings out. Music helps as well. Listen to something that makes you feel happy and less alone (all the old break-up songs about love, loss and overcoming it helped me feel less alone, and the Assassin's Creed 2 soundtrack really calms me down for some reason).

I know it may be expensive (and it makes me sore as family doctors in the UK have so many free services, both medication and therapy), but go back to your doctor and explain how you feel. They are there to help, remember that. Alternatively, do you have any family, friends, co-workers, or even college tutors you could talk to? You are not alone, and you don't have to suffer alone. So many people from work helped me through my recent depression, and working and keeping busy kept my mind off the whole sorry business. I would have crumbled without them.

It won't be easy, believe me, I know, but you have the strength to get over this. Get financial help, emotional support, change your boring, depressing routine even if you have to force yourself. Accept all the help you need, do not be scared or ashamed to ask for it.

I'm reaching out to you as well, feel free to PM me if you need to talk.

[Pete]

You can stop with the whole boo hoo my life sucks act. Everyone deals with bullshit every day, some more than others.

People are trying to help you and are offering a helping hand, take it if you think that talking to good listeners will help, it usually does. There are services that can help you with whatever it is you think you have, but for now, you should probably stick to your meds and try to find the things in your life that you want to live for.

The best thing for depression is to talk it through. Hell, even if it's making a TFF journal. It helps to just get things off your chest, because when you read it out loud, it's not nearly as bad as you think.

[do re mi ti la]

I got expelled from college for.threats
Then hospitalized for 2 week
Then jailed froth a week
Also I eat healthy and work out 5 times a week

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[Polk]

Damnit I leave for like two days and I miss all the good stuff.

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[che]

What the **** is your avatar.

[Rocky]

You should start singing! because its fun and a great way to get emotions out and then you can live up to your forum name

Also, I strongly recommend making a tff journal so you can post all your feelings and vent/rant stuff there too instead of across the whole forum. As much as I like dealing with people that have severe issues and diagnosing them on a Final Fantasy forum, I also strongly recommend you see a psychiatrist.


On a completely realtalk level, I had a friend who was dealing with issues similar to yours, and he saw some chinese chiropractor/acupuncturist who helped straighten and align out his back while giving him weird herbal supplements. It sounds strange as hell, but for some reason it REALLY helped him out and he was able to turn his depression around dramatically within a very short span. Maybe its something you can ask your doctor about?

[The Dark Crystal]

Only you can make yourself happy, no person or drug can do that for you. Obviously theirs things you need to do "in life" that you have been neglecting, so maybe you should take heed to some of the other members advise so your not in the same position in another 5 to 10 years. Sorry to sound harsh but your crying out for help and I can't sugar coat the situation.

[do re mi ti la]

Am doing good now

working on having positive outlook!

true optimism is being able to be positive even when things look negative!

either way i am content

thank you all who supported in my time of need!