No I haven't made a change to my sexual orientation. Just curious.

You see, my older sister has been going out with a guy for a couple years now. At first I thought he was "okay". He seemed like a cool guy. A little quick to brag about his "MAD Martial Arts SKILLZ", a little quick to freak out if he's not with her, but nothing terrible. They eventually moved in to an apartment together.

But lately since about late May, he quit his job and has been "looking" for a job. I use the term loosely because he doesn't put much effort into it at all. Last I heard he went in to an interview for Wal-Mart but I never heard any news since. My sister actually took on a second job to help support them both, while he stays at home mostly lounging around putting on a noticeable amount of weight.

My sister expresses her frustration when I see her at my workplace (yeah that's the ONLY time I see her now, just for a few quick minutes at work). But yet, she still insists that he's 'the one' and they want to get married when "they're ready". They use to come over to my house and we'd have fun hanging out while they'd use my washer and dryer. But eventually *he* didn't want them to visit anymore claiming my house stinks or just didn't want to go. Somehow even if my sister wants to go somewhere, if he doesn't, she doesn't, even though they live within walking distance of my place. I mean just the other day we were talking Anime, how I got a DVD, and she was saying how hard it is to watch Anime on their computer because when he expresses "disinterest" she's practically forced to stop watching it.

When we went to Vegas with our grandparents a few months ago. He "nobly" declined so that he could find a solid job, but then asked to go THE day of the trip because he couldn't stand being without her for 3 DAYS. Even then most of the trip they were ALWAYS talking with each other on the phone.

It kinda sucks, moving out on my own, I "lost" a lot of my high school friends, and while I make friends at work, we somehow never manage to do anything outside of work. So I'm mostly just by myself right now, literally, which is kind of depressing. So my sister is one of my only "friends" right now, and I hardly get to see HER anymore. So my family and I are very worried about her, even her boss from her one job is a little worried he's trying to "cut her off" so that she's exclusively his. While we got along before, he hates my guts now because I called him out on it

Sorry if I'm rambling here. But my questions to the ladies are...

"Have you ever been in a controlled relationship?"

"Have you ever been in a relationship that you thought was SO RIGHT, even though your family disapproved, only later to 'snap out of it' and wondered what you were thinking?"

Guys can answer this too if they have a controlling girlfriend. It strikes me as funny that they talk about this one friend of theirs, Richard, who has this very controlling girlfriend and pretty much does the same things my sister's BF does above, yet they joke about it without seeing the parallels.