Just be yourself, and blunt!

[The Dark Crystal]

So why does almost everyone have two faces, why can't they act one way, and just be themselves instead of acting different ways almost everywhere they go, or towards different people they meet?

As for me I speak my mind, and act myself. No that doesn't mean I feel like that towards other people or a person in general , I just say what I see in people, and what I think might be right.

Does anyone else get annoyed by this, and notice a different face on someone you really know, weather their a close friend, or a family member.
Doesn't it just wanna make slap their a** across the face, and say stop trying to please everyone around you da**it!!

[The_Dream_Recluse]

So why does almost everyone have two faces, why can't they act one way, and just be themselves instead of acting different ways almost everywhere they go, or towards different people they meet?

As for me I speak my mind, and act myself. No that doesn't mean I feel like that towards other people or a person in general , I just say what I see in people, and what I think might be right.

Does anyone else get annoyed by this, and notice a different face on someone you really know, weather their a close friend, or a family member.
Doesn't it just wanna make slap their a** across the face, and say stop trying to please everyone around you da**it!!

I think at one point or another in our lives, we all wear masks and try to appear as someone other than who we are in order to impress people, whether they're friends, love interests, family members or bosses/clients. Obviously one isn't going to be as open and free with their bosses/clients as they are with their partners or family. But i do understand your point.

It would be nice if we all could just act normally and not have to worry about what others think about us. I personally don't really care what people think, but on the same token, i'm not going to go flaunt myself in public. I like being the quiet, mysterious type - it suits me well and lets me get a good grasp of people's personalities and interactions.

[Alpha]

I'll be blunt, then. Bullshit. We all put on masks. All day everyday. How I interact with my lecturers and academics is formal, and I do my best to seem intelligent, serious, and motivated. Around my classmates, I'm more informal, but I don't ever give off a stupid vibe, because being stupid to be cool is... stupid. Around my close friends, I'm completely different. I'm foul-mouthed but not rude, willing to give my opinion on anything, but also very shy around people I'm not familiar with. At home, I never give my opinion on things, because I know I'll get into arguments with my parents. If anything political comes up at dinner time, I'm steadfastly neutral. Or I comment by saying that the whole thing is silly (it usually is anyway). On Facebook, I probably come across wittier than I actually am. Because I always think about what to post before I post it, rather than give something more off the cuff. Here, I make my mind up rapidly, and just type. Verbal diarrhoea and shit.

But I have no idea which one of those is the 'real me'. Because they all are.

[The Dark Crystal]

I think at one point or another in our lives, we all wear masks and try to appear as someone other than who we are in order to impress people, whether they're friends, love interests, family members or bosses/clients. Obviously one isn't going to be as open and free with their bosses/clients as they are with their partners or family. But i do understand your point.

I agree, I am guilty of it as well, but I don't do it just for the h*ll of it! Theirs always a reason for me doing so, weather it be for a job, or me being around my elder. I also don't consider it another mask though, your just trying to give respect and not say/do things they might not find respectable at their age.

For alpha>

Better yet let me say this (Should have been more specific the first time, sorry.) Their are people out their that do it constantly as well, people who put on different mask without even thinking about it, people who do it when they don't need to, and people who probably don't even realize it because they do it so much.

Also, I don't agree we all put on mask everyday.

Edit: Probable should have put this in the Intellectual discussion, sorry mods!

[Ryu-Kentoshii Hirokima]

I Think People Just Want To Get Along With Everyone, So People Tell Other People What They Wanna Hear, So There Is No Conflict, Even Though They Are Lying To Other People's Faces Straight Up. Maybe Not Entirely Lying, But They Are Avoiding Certain Truths, Or They Stretch The Truth To Not Get On People's Bad Sides Or Something. We All Have Feelings And Emotions Different From Others, And We All Have Likes And Dislikes That Other People See Differently. As Long As We All Accept Each Other For Who We Are, And Not Lash Out At Each Other Just For One Difference Of Opinion, Then The World Could Be More Open, And Would Be A Better Place For Everyone To Live In. This Is Just My Point Of View On The Matter At Hand.

I Would Also Like To Point Out That I Agree With The Fact That We Do Put On Different Masks When We Talk Or Do Stuff With Different People...Its Crazy, But It Is What We Do, Thanks To The Media And Such.

[The Dark Crystal]

I Think People Just Want To Get Along With Everyone, So People Tell Other People What They Wanna Hear, So There Is No Conflict, Even Though They Are Lying To Other People's Faces Straight Up. Maybe Not Entirely Lying, But They Are Avoiding Certain Truths, Or They Stretch The Truth To Not Get On People's Bad Sides Or Something. We All Have Feelings And Emotions Different From Others, And We All Have Likes And Dislikes That Other People See Differently. As Long As We All Accept Each Other For Who We Are, And Not Lash Out At Each Other Just For One Difference Of Opinion, Then The World Could Be More Open, And Would Be A Better Place For Everyone To Live In. This Is Just My Point Of View On The Matter At Hand.

I Would Also Like To Point Out That I Agree With The Fact That We Do Put On Different Masks When We Talk Or Do Stuff With Different People...Its Crazy, But It Is What We Do, Thanks To The Media And Such.

I see your point, but why? If someone doesn't like you for who you are, don't try to please them, go and find someone who likes you for who you are. You shouldn't have to act one way for that person and then another way for another person, just so they will like you.
Their are billions of people in this world, and I'm sure their are plenty of people to accept you as you, and nothing else!

Also, I do agree with this:

"We All Have Feelings And Emotions Different From Others, And We All Have Likes And Dislikes That Other People See Differently. As Long As We All Accept Each Other For Who We Are, And Not Lash Out At Each Other Just For One Difference Of Opinion, Then The World Could Be More Open, And Would Be A Better Place For Everyone To Live In."- R-KH

[Victoria]

I'll just say that if I acted myself and blunt, nobody would like me. At all.
Because I'd be a bitch. The only people who would like me, are fellow bitches.

Also, why do I please people?

1. Being lonely sucks.
2. If you are nice to someone, they will do you favors. It's how the world works. Do something for someone, they'll do something for you in return. Using people is fun, isn't it? Of course, nobody sees it for what it really is. It's blanketed by friendship and bonds and all those other nice words. Sure, genuine feelings may be involved somewhere, but...down to the nitty gritty, it's just using and being used.

But nobody cares, because it's equal trade. If I scratch your back, you scratch mine. Etc.

I probably went off on a tangent, but whatever.

[The Doctor]

So why does almost everyone have two faces, why can't they act one way, and just be themselves instead of acting different ways almost everywhere they go, or towards different people they meet?

As for me I speak my mind, and act myself. No that doesn't mean I feel like that towards other people or a person in general , I just say what I see in people, and what I think might be right.

Does anyone else get annoyed by this, and notice a different face on someone you really know, weather their a close friend, or a family member.
Doesn't it just wanna make slap their a** across the face, and say stop trying to please everyone around you da**it!!

What if you, unavoidably, change personalities? Perhaps you can't even remember who you are at certain points? The problem of identity is a terribly vague problem. Just look at the movie Memento!
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Sorry... What was I typing about?

[Elise]

I agree with all the points you guys make about formal relations.

You can wear as many masks as you like, but I truly believe you wouldn't be able to have a close interpersonal relationship with anyone if you're not being yourself, of course without a mask all the wrinkles will appear, but no one is perfect and everyone needs people around them to love them with all their imperfections, it's not about similarities as much as about respect and acceptance. I think it's about choosing who to let in. That's why people need time to develop close relationships, they need time to feel safe and comfortable to lift off the mask.

'What people think' is a complicated matter. It's important for me that people think I'm respectful of them, but at the same time I don't care what they say if I'm doing my own thing without crossing anyone's lines.

[Pete]

I think it all boils down to our personality, and our surroundings in general. I don't think that everyone wants everyone to get along and to be all lovey dovey and happy. Hell, I certainly don't.

However, it's hard to say that everyone puts on masks. I would agree that most of us do, for whatever reason.

I also wouldn't say that it's as bleak a world as Toph describes it. If I hold a door open for someone, or treat someone respectfully, I'm not expecting anything from them; it's the right thing to do and it's something I would expect that others would do for me. Just like if anyone of my friends were to call me up right now and need help with something, I'd do my best to help them. It wouldn't be because I'd expect them to do something for me in return, but because I value things like friendship and loyalty. It's also not bad if they're willing to pay for a pint or two afterwards, but that's not why I'd help.

Then again, when I don't like someone, I really don't make an effort to hide that. My opinions on a person may change, and I may wind up liking someone I once didn't, but I don't think that's in the same vein.

What it really boils down to is that we all present ourselves in the way we'd like to be perceived. Some of us simply care more or less how we are viewed.

[Elise]

What it really boils down to is that we all present ourselves in the way we'd like to be perceived.

Exactly! There is this saying that states 'be careful what you pretend to be, because you are what you pretend to be'

[Unknown Entity]

I think anyone can be nice and blunt. It's down to your personality, and think everyone plays a part in being anyone. It's not really something that bothers me unless someone plays off being two-faced too often.

Masks is a reasonable explanation. As humans, there's things that change to way we act or see things. For example, I feel threatened when someone of authority talks down their nose at me, so I'll put up a defence and try and match them in "size" - it's not exactly anything personal, but that's just my gut reaction to being threatened.

I also think if we all lived being blunt and not telling lies, no one would have friends. I wouldn't say it was "using" like Vicky mentioned, because I really don't like the term "using someone/people". I agree with her that being lonely sucks though.

[Rowan]

We are but a culmination of everyone we have ever known.

[Asectic]

Well, I sort of understand why people would tend to hide their true personality. If you just met that person, I would certainly become like that. A random person suddenly acting friendly to you, it feels weird. Too weird.

On the other hand if you were meeting the person for a long time, then yeah. Do whatever.

Not everyone is blunt though. Others may choose to have a another personality, just for the fun of it. Or maybe it's because they're ashamed of their real nature, and don't want to show it. I'm not saying it's a good thing to keep it locked, but give the person some time.

Depends on the person. Myself, I'm also blunt, sorry to say when I've been thinking the complete opposite. And honestly sometimes, I find it annoying. When I look back at some of the things I said, my cheeks flush because, to myself, those things were embarassing~!

In short: Blunt but not really "smooth" with it.

Onwards!
Athna

[Gabranth]

I am blunt with my kids, but with other people there are some limitations to what you can get away with. i'd like to think I can say everything all of the time but it never works out in your favor if you try it.

[lady ashe]

i am like my character... (not just the way i look)... i can be rather blunt but i like to hide things that have injuyed me... i cant always be myself

[Furore]

I like to think I'm pretty genuine.
But I fear I might be ever so slightly insane, don't sleep all that often and am almost perpetually partially drunk and have a terrible memory, so I don't always know what I'm saying or have a firm grasp on time and the like.

I also have a problem with feeling a need to take a stand, especially in the face of large numbers if I believe there's a reason for it. Hell, it's not uncommon to see me stirring a hornet's nest online because I'm seeing someone getting picked on or am trying to make a wave of righteous folks see the negative side of whatever they're championing.

I see many masks on many people and think it really comes down to one thing - most people don't seem to want to be seen as odd or different - even the outsiders seem to hang in a clique of similarly acting folk and I see much hypocrisy such as people saying looks don't matter so they don't seem shallow, only to later talk about not giving someone a chance because they're ugly to which all their friends who were saying the same shit before agree with them and applaud their actions.

Often these days I'm smart enough to just sit back with my drink and not say anything, but the thoughts are there.

[motscroises]

But I have no idea which one of those is the 'real me'. Because they all are.

This. Just because I am a bit more outgoing with some people than others doesn't mean I am 'truly' one way or the other. Clearly, judging from my actions, I am a bit of both. All of the masks we wear are a part of us because people aren't so two-dimensional that they only behave in one specific way. So if someone acts differently with me than with someone else, I don't think that they're two faced, I think that they have a lot of facets to their personality and I wouldn't have it any other way.

Unless you're talking about brown nosing? Brown nosing is kind of annoying and counter-productive, but as long as I'm not getting thrown under the bus I don't mind it.

[Assassin]

I agree. I get pretty annoyed too. Like my cousin, although i love her very much she still tries to be some1 she's not. I try to tell her that your totally perfect the way you are but she still doesn't listen. I think people do that coz they just don't have enough confidence in their selves which is very wrong.

[The_Dream_Recluse]

I agree. I get pretty annoyed too. Like my cousin, although i love her very much she still tries to be some1 she's not. I try to tell her that your totally perfect the way you are but she still doesn't listen. I think people do that coz they just don't have enough confidence in their selves which is very wrong.

Everyone tries to live their lives pleasing others. Sometimes, you just gotta live for yourself you know. That doesn't mean turn into a total selfish pr**k though.

Don't worry belleZ, most teenagers go through this phase. She will find her bearings and who she wants to be. Just keep supporting her like you are