I'm not gonna start quoting, but I'll make every argument.
In your own words, a pedophile is sexually attracted to prepubescent children. Now, to me, sexual attraction means that you are attracted to them in a sexual manner. When I'm attracted to someone in a sexual manner, nine times out of ten it means that I would like to engage in some form of sexual intercourse with them. I don't know any other way that it goes. Yes, there is a difference between desire and action. Now, if the girl of my dreams came up to me and wanted to perform sexual acts on me, I would not hesitate in saying yes. If the prepubescent girl of your dreams put you in the same position, would you say yes or no. Pretend that the law does not exist.
As for GTA4, I see your point. But I also happen to see GTA4 and videogames in general as stress relief when I can't get to the gym. Killing a person in a videogame is so mundane and routine that it's a nothing action in the world of games. (Now this does not mean that I have the desire to do it in real life, nor does it mean that I'm completely desensitized to such things). Most of the time, there's no challenge to it or any true reward. However, just the idea of getting a videogame rape van and molesting kids takes a lot more of a sick mind than simply killing a few random adults. Yes both acts are illegal in real life and also morally reprehensible, but I think that because murder in videogames is so commonplace that it couldn't even hold a candle to a kiddie rape van.
As for the difference between a 30 year old with no knowledge of evil and an 8 year old with knowledge, I do think that there is a difference, and that it exists. It has a lot more to do with cultural upbringing and socio-economic status. Kids in the ghetto "grow up" a lot faster than kids in Malibu. You can hear about stories on the news and think, oh thats terrible, and then you can see it firsthand and experience the magnitude of it. Being a "child" might not be the proper term for it, but naive and innocent definitely are. But to go back to that point, children aren't supposed to see that type of evil; they're not supposed to experience that type of evil at such a young age. Child molesters are that evil and by performing sexual acts with children, they're robbing that innocence and childhood naivete from them. And yes, some adults live sheltered lives where they still have their innocence and naivete. While those people are quite endearing to meet, they usually get played more often than not, and are usually more shocked of what the world really is like. At the other end of the spectrum, you can have adolescents who are jaded with life.
A kid isn't supposed to start wondering about sex and the other sex until puberty. At that point, they begin to discover stuff about themselves... for themselves. It's where the term "coming of age" stems from. Prematurely thrusting a child into such a situation can only do more harm than good.
As for sex abuse vs murder, I can't argue with an opinion on where bad things lie on the morality scale.
As for the guidance, I feel that it can only lead to inappropriate experiences and sexual contact. While a pedophile might be no less helpful, I think that in dealing with children, it might be potentially more harmful to have a pedophile around. I just don't see the non-link between sexual attraction, desire and action. If I'm attracted to a girl, there's a reason for it. Some time ago, the two heads got together and told me what kid of girl I find attractive. If I see someone I find attractive, they'll send signals to each other telling me that I've just gotta start a conversation. To put yourself in such a position, as both a mentor as someone who desires the student, seems to be almost an abuse of power or influence. If the child is young and impressionable enough, what's to stop you from teaching them that it's okay to be sexual with you.
It's the same reasoning as to why I wouldn't want a recovering alcoholic to work for a brewery. While you might do well at your job, there's still way too much temptation and possibility for bad to happen.
As for your last point, I'll take that back. There have been times when I've learned from my exes and where they've learned from me. I don't necessarily consider it teaching in the same way that I would find myself teaching a child, but that's mostly because I find myself in relationships with women who have an understanding of the world, where I wouldn't have to explain all of the details. It's most definitely not teaching in the sense that a teacher or mentor would, but rather picking up idiosyncrasies or habits, as well as the occasional bit of knowledge.
And as for the whole idea of giving pedohphiles an outlet to just "get it out of their system," I don't really agree with this either. It's similar to the idea of that internet porn is the reason why cases of rape are down. There's no statistical proof that this is true, just a correlation. In the summertime, ice cream sales and crime rates also rise. Is ice cream the reason why more crimes are committed?
I would have to agree with you though, Nathan, that it is wrong to damn someone for something they haven't done. You can't jail someone for something they haven't done, unless there is concrete evidence of plans TO DO something, or if they are stopped en route or right before something happens.
As for people who watch child porn, I think they're just as bad, if not worse than the ones doing the actual molesting. It's terrible enough that it happens, but it's even worse for people to watch it and actually masturbate to it instead of reporting it to authorities.
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