Clearly this is such a tough and offensive issue for ALL of us here, because none of us like what we're discussing. The only real reason I think to try and say that you can do something to make yourself less of a target of rape is because I don't want anyone to get raped. I know the only person to blame is the person who decides to rape. I seriously wish there was something I could say or do to make sure that everyone who heard me or took precaution would never get raped ever. And if making myself look like a huge ****ing douchebag on a forum for having ideas, then cool. I know we're not gonna solve the rape issue.
It's like, I somewhat comprehend but completely understand that there are people (male, female, and all) in this world that decide to rape. I'm not ever trying to blame anyone who gets raped by saying they were wearing the wrong thing. When I have said stuff like that, I guess I really AM saying that please don't be the one wearing those short ass shorts when you go out at night, because in the past or for some god damned reason my brain thinks that has something to do with how a rapist at a bar selects his target. It REALLY is just a "I don't want anyone to get raped, but if someone is going to, I definitely don't want it to be my daughter, or my wife, or girlfriend, or friend or any girl close to me". But I don't want anyone to get raped. I guess I know it's inevitable and I'd rather it happen to someone else. Yeah, that's not helping the issue. I am sick of ****ing comparing guns to rape or other crimes to rape in general, but again: if someone was going to have a school shooting, I wouldn't want my kid to get shot. I'd hope to **** when I heard about it that it was someone else's kid. Obviously I don't want ANY kid to get shot, EVER. But I don't think I'm the only one who thinks this way. But yeah, I'll ****ing admit it.
So yeah, it's ****ing offensive as hell when dudes are like "don't wear those clothes, and don't go out at night and don't go to that concert and be in that environment". I don't think Heartless Angel, Rowan, myself, or anyone that has posted in here that has talked about what to wear or anything means any harm to anyone. We're NOT the rapists. We obviously do not understand what makes a person decide to rape someone. I think we are all just trying to help but we're at a loss.
And I totally agree that the way I think, concerning safety of the women (and men! ****ing hell) around me is totally patriarchal. For me, it's an issue of instinct vs. what's morally correct in society. And in the face of danger or anything like that, I'm probably gonna go with instincts until I have protected those around me first and foremost.
edit: feel like a **** for making this post but i'm gonna leave it up. I hope everyone has a nice day.
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