Co-workers.

[Unknown Entity]

Where I work, if you have a problem with a member of staff, you're advised to speak with the manager about it and/or given a number to call where you can express how you feel confidentially. If it's not resolved, you can go higher to Head Office, and the person(s) in question can be investigated and given a written warning/documented discussion.

We're such a tight group of people where I work anyway. On the few occasions when we've believed someone's had a problem with us, we usually just ask them up front when we're alone - infront of everyone, it's not very professional. If you're confident enough, just ask one of them if they have a problem with you - perhaps one of them on their own, and not in an upset or angry tone. Keep it calm, as though you're just simply asking someone a question. Depending on their reaction from that, you'll know what to do next (i.e. manager time, HR time, quit time).

Maybe talk to your brother first, and see if he understands what you're going through. If he works with them, he might know them a little better. It may or may not resolve things though, if he gets involved. It'll be nice to have someone with your back though, and that might make you feel a little more confident.

I hope it's resolved soon. Bullying isn't nice, but the faster you act, the better. Don't let it drain you either - you're a lovely, smart, intelligent girl and that makes you heaps better than them.

Hell, tell me where you work, and I'll come down and be a right problem customer for them. ><

[Chez Daja]

Speak to your brother and your manager. It isn't often encouraged in staff to confront the situation without somebody higher up being aware.
I used to work in a small office with three guys, never had a problem with them. We had problems with women in the office an hour away because they were useless, but that's about it.
Where I work now, we're a bigger team and we have to support each other because of the nature of the work we do (support working, assessing, etc). I know there are some rivalrys' going on between certain staff members but I don't usually create or influence any drama.

[GypsyElder]

What Chez said. Also,

I work in the Human Resources Department at my job, and the last thing you want is for this it escalate and cause a problem in the wok place. You'll be the one at fault if you don't speak up. I would suggest keeping it low key and telling your manager or the Human Resources generalist if you have one. I don't even think you should let your brother know if you think he'll start a commotion.

You need to make it a point that they're causing you discomfort at wok. Talk to whoever you're reporting to privately in their office that way you have time to explain the whole situation.

Those ladies are f*cking ridiculous. If all fails, put whoopee cushions on their seats.

[Rowan]

This is all good advice, but theres something you should definitley do before you see your boss. CONFRONT THEM. I'm not sure where you are on the self-confidence level, but heres your chance to really learn something about yourself and deal with this issue on your own terms. A great opportunity for character growth and development and a chance to level up your self-confidence. Confront these girls in a calm manner and ask whats so funny or if theres a problem. They sound like prissy teenagers , am I correct? I mean, if they were fat and ugly, why would you care what they are saying? They're probably not use to being confronted. This is an easy battle for you that will be incredbly rewarding. Go upto them and ask them if they have a problem or whats so funny? Stand tall and strong and make them realise that theyre little obvious giggles and stares will not go unoticed and will result in consquences and confrontations.

Trust me.

give it a shot.

[chikala95]

It's good they have stopped. This is similar to what happened to me in school. My brother had a word with the boy, almost scared him to death, then he stopped. But then the girl's started talking about me and insulting me etc.

I never confronted them, nor did I ignore them. I just calmly showed them that I didn't care. If you show no interest in them they should get bored and just move on.

If it ever happens again, just laugh in front of them. Show that you aren't bothered by the fact they bully you and tell them they must really like you since they talk about you so much! they're jealous of the fact you are much more mature than them and can do your job better than them!

Try and raise yourself up to put them down. it works for me.

If you don't have the courage to confront them, then just do more of the things they hate. Style your hair differently or wear different clothing. If they start talking about you just give them a smile to show you can hear them but don't care. See it more of an honor that they are spending their valuable time thinking about you

[Rowan]

I never confronted them, nor did I ignore them. I just calmly showed them that I didn't care. If you show no interest in them they should get bored and just move on.

This isn't the case most of the time. By not standing up for yourself, you are showing signs of weakness and validate their behaviour. This is the kind of process that tends to lead to more bullying in future. Please follow my previous advice.

[chikala95]

By not standing up for yourself, you are showing signs of weakness and validate their behaviour. This is the kind of process that tends to lead to more bullying in future.

I never said to not stand up for yourself. It's the difference between crying and showing them weakness to standing tall and moving forward. Even if you report them they see it as grabbing the attention they desire thus creating more problems in the future. If you ignore them and carry on with your life and be PROUD of your life, the bullying will seem like nothing. When a fire is ignored, it goes out, right? It's the same idea here.