So he was meant to deal with his emptiness for your and your own families personal comfort and happiness while he suffered? Sounds to me like a selfish expectation of yourself. Personal experience means nothing since something as complex and sensitive as depression is different for each and every person. At the end of the day, sitting in your happy little world and calling someone with serious mental issues a coward, really pisses me off, regardless of the love you have for them. It's understandable you would not want them to die, but you must understand always respect the decision that your loves make, even of you disagree with it.