Quote Originally Posted by Rowan View Post
So he was meant to deal with his emptiness for your and your own families personal comfort and happiness while he suffered? Sounds to me like a selfish expectation of yourself. Personal experience means nothing since something as complex and sensitive as depression is different for each and every person. At the end of the day, sitting in your happy little world and calling someone with serious mental issues a coward, really pisses me off, regardless of the love you have for them. It's understandable you would not want them to die, but you must understand always respect the decision that your loves make, even of you disagree with it.
He killed himself because my mother in law decided she didn't want to be with him anymore. So now my husband and my sister in law get to spend the rest of their lives without their father. We know exactly why he did what he did, he wrote it all in his note. My MIL would be better off "financially" as a widower rather than a divorcee. You do not know us, you do not know the situation nor did you know him. Don't try to lump it all into one category.

People can and do kill themselves over stupid reasons. Fact. My father in law did, our friend did, Amanda Todd did. Too many people take the "oh its their choice" route... but you know what? I wish I had fought harder for him, tried to get him help, tried to get him councelling, whatever. Our entire family hurts so freaking bad because he's not here anymore. **** the money that my MIL gets because he's gone.

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Quote Originally Posted by NikkiLinkle View Post
I can see the other side too. It's a very broad, complex issue, from both sides.

I'm sorry you had to deal with that stuff, I know sorry doesn't help, but that is all I can offer
Thanks <3

Was trying to not get into the whole personal aspect of it as then I get defensive of them. I'm also still really freaking angry at them too! But that is for another day and another cheque to the psychologist

ETA - Suicide is stupid. However, people who took that route didn't deserve that. We live daily with the feelings like we didn't do enough to try and save them. It sucks.