How to be a nice person

[Alpha]

By nice do you mean "polite" or do you mean "empathetic", or something else?

Someone can hold what I would consider douche-baggy self-centered and unpopular opinions, but still be perfectly polite and pleasant to be around when not having contentious discussions.

People seem to very often conflate politeness and empathy, when they are quite different things.

[Rowan]

By nice do you mean "polite" or do you mean "empathetic", or something else?

Someone can hold what I would consider douche-baggy self-centered and unpopular opinions, but still be perfectly polite and pleasant to be around when not having contentious discussions.

People seem to very often conflate politeness and empathy, when they are quite different things.

They both fall under the catagory of 'niceness' and overall generality of how people perceive you. In my experience, you only need to be lacking at either one for people to make their judgement calls. And I agree, some people can hold really one-sided apologist, irrational world views and I would still consider them to have other great qualities worthy of learning from. But at the end of the day, whether people will ever admit to it or not, we all generalise each other to a degree as its only human nature to see patterns (which is a blessing and a curse).