Pro-Life or Pro-Choice?

[Unknown Entity]

It is a difficult subject to talk about because you have no idea who you may offend, and I don't think many people grasp exactly how it must feel to have a decision as such weighing them down, or even being haunted by the decision that was made. I think my beliefs lay with prevention before pro-life and pro-choice.

First and foremost, I believe that if two people that are having sex don't want to have kids, then it's their responsibility to make sure they don't. That is the only way to avoid the subject. In this day and age, it's not as though there aren't enough contraception advice and methods available. There's condoms, pills, injections, patches, and those disgusting implants and inserts with spermicide things.

I wouldn't say I was pro-life, but I believe that abortion should be thought of as a last resort. I guess what is considered a "last resort" differ from person to person, and I won't judge what people think their options are or could be. If it were me, I'd just want to have the pill and be done, but I'd probably take some time off to think about it, hear what my partner had to say, and see if maybe adoption was an option. With adoption, even though it'd be considered, I'm not too sure if I'd be strong enough to have my kid raised by someone else - once that baby is out, you feel differently from what I hear.

So I guess I'm pretty much pro-choice, but not the feminist-y version where I grab my signs and pitchforks, go on marches and preaching about it being my body, and what I know nothing about. I believe men should have a voice in the matter, if their girlfriend or wife considers abortion. While I agree that my body is my body, and that I'm the only person who gets to choose what I do with it, I don't think I could go ahead without agreeing, or coming to an agreement with my boyfriend. After all, my choice would ultimately decide whether or not he becomes a father. It kind of says it all about your partner if they're prepared to walk away if you went through with an abortion, and you'd need their support as much as they need yours.

I don't think abortion is a bad thing, and I don't frown upon people who have been faced with that decision and gone through with it. How can I? I'm not in their shoes, and they know what's best for them more than anyone. I think the best time to have an abortion is as soon as possible. It doesn't take too long to work it out, depending when the next period is due. I think the choice needs to be made as soon as possible to avoid the emotional trauma. I'd rather have the pills to initiate miscarriage, or the vacuum aspiration thing. The idea of having a late abortion distresses me enough to either get it over with as soon as, or prevent pregnancy until I'm good and ready. Dealing with a miscarriage (intended or not) has got to easier than seeing what could have become.

It can be avoided, and so I think I'm pro-prevention.

[Halie]

So I guess I'm pretty much pro-choice, but not the feminist-y version where I grab my signs and pitchforks, go on marches and preaching about it being my body, and what I know nothing about.

I don't mean this as like an attack on you or anything, but the way you speak of feminists makes me think that you don't really understand what feminism is. We aren't people who run around with pitchforks and fire, preaching of things we don't know about. Actually, feminists argue exactly the same points that you've just made in your post.

But I'm off-topic. I'm 100% Pro-choice. I don't ever want to be in the situation where I'll have to have an abortion because I imagine it'd be a pretty traumatic experience, but I'd rather have an abortion than give birth to a child that I can't raise properly. Like Gemma, I'd much rather prevent the situation in the first place.

I don't even know why I'm answering this I never get laid anyway.

[Unknown Entity]

I don't mean this as like an attack on you or anything, but the way you speak of feminists makes me think that you don't really understand what feminism is. We aren't people who run around with pitchforks and fire, preaching of things we don't know about. Actually, feminists argue exactly the same points that you've just made in your post.

But I'm off-topic. I'm 100% Pro-choice. I don't ever want to be in the situation where I'll have to have an abortion because I imagine it'd be a pretty traumatic experience, but I'd rather have an abortion than give birth to a child that I can't raise properly. Like Gemma, I'd much rather prevent the situation in the first place.

I don't even know why I'm answering this I never get laid anyway.

I wouldn't have viewed it as an attack.

I don't mean "feminists" as the whole group (sorry, I have a habit for not pointing stuff out). You do get those hardcore, "supirior to men" lot who give all feminists a bad name. I have the misfortune to know a few, or at least the mockeries of them. If they frown upon Fathers 4 Justice, then I frown on them types, for example. I firmly believe that abortion is something to be discussed as a couple, not just one person making the decision. Unless they're alone, then I guess there's not really much of a discussion to have.

Plus, you can't post on TFF without a little controversy!

And Rameses, please? It would be nice if you could add a little more to your post?

EDIT: I'm on my break at work, so if no one posts, I have a few other points I'd like to add. This is just a "watch" this space" message.