The One That Got Away

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Alpha,
Keeping in touch with/being friends with/sleeping with your exs is not friendzone. I was friends with one of my exs for years.
Wanting to be in a relationship and continuously being kept at a distance is the friendzone.
I don't keep in touch with exs for two reasons, it makes the new girlfiend jealous/insecure and I broke up for a reason. However, moving to a new city every few years makes it easy for me to disappear, even from the stalker types.
Edit: Acting like you haven't ever seen some shamefully whipped dude chasing after a girl who clearly has no interest in him?
Claiming to never have wasted your time trying to convince a girl to give you a chance to impress her?
Are you a blind eunic?

It is easy to take a good relationship for granted.
Many girls I have dated start doing the psychology crap, trying to find out how far I'll go for her comfort, how honest I am, blah blah blah.

Now, in your case, you would be in the friendzone if current girlfriend did not exsit and you were trying to pick back up with one of the exs unsuccessfully.



Rowan,
6 billion people on the planet.

2 billion starving to death in china.
1 billion starving to death in various other places.
1 billion have mental disorders or deformities.
1 billion honestly believe they should have been the opposite sex.
4 million are in the north korean army.

So that leaves...
500 million scattered around the world that aren't undesireable right off the bat.
Of that, I'm sure most are douchebags.

Not that I'm being pessimistic.
I just hate when people remind me that there are 6 billion people, as if each one could be worth meeting.

Truth is, most people are not worth meeting.

[Yoko]

Rowan,
6 billion people on the planet.

2 billion starving to death in china.
1 billion starving to death in various other places.
1 billion have mental disorders or deformities.
1 billion honestly believe they should have been the opposite sex.
4 million are in the north korean army.

So that leaves...
500 million scattered around the world that aren't undesireable right off the bat.
Of that, I'm sure most are douchebags.

Not that I'm being pessimistic.
I just hate when people remind me that there are 6 billion people, as if each one could be worth meeting.

Truth is, most people are not worth meeting.

That's exactly what I was trying to say. People are like fingerprints. No one is ever the same. Everyone has different personalities, different views. The odds of you finding that person again with the same views or a nice balance is difficult. Not to say that you shouldn't try...It just takes a lot of work. I'd rather work on my career.

I know people who meet internet friends they like and then one day, the randomly fall off the world wide web, and there's no trace left of them. Kind of sad to see, but in that case, I would say Get out into the world and meet other people. There are some really nice people out there, and no, they are not in the friendzone. I believe in fate. When it happens, it happens. You can't force anything.