Uncle/Aunt Vs. Proper Name. A debate

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We don't know each other at all. Let's say then that we meet and I tell you my name is Robert, but all my friends call me Pops. Would you then go, "you weren't my father for 22 years!? wtf!?" or would you simply be polite and call me by what I request.

More over, just because he hasn't "been there for you", which I'm assuming to you means no money for the birthday or Christmas, it doesn't mean that you can't be there for him now when times are rough and he's relying on family to get back on his feet. Bitch more about words you have to say.

[Furore]

We don't know each other at all. Let's say then that we meet and I tell you my name is Robert, but all my friends call me Pops. Would you then go, "you weren't my father for 22 years!? wtf!?" or would you simply be polite and call me by what I request.

More over, just because he hasn't "been there for you", which I'm assuming to you means no money for the birthday or Christmas, it doesn't mean that you can't be there for him now when times are rough and he's relying on family to get back on his feet. Bitch more about words you have to say.

Actually by 'been there for you', I mean 'at all'.
I have a large extended family and so long as they've been willing to have a relationship going, even if it's just the occasional letter, I consider that being there.

If it's some random relative I never met who wants to move in randomly there's a good chance I won't be treating him the same way I treat those who've made the effort to get to know me and foster a relationship.

Perhaps you'd let a stranger with the same blood mooch off of you and even treat them with respect (via usage of a title reserved for elder members of your family), but I'll be damned if I do.

Then again, I consider some of my friends to be more 'family' then some of my 'blood related' family so perhaps that factors into it. I just don't invest that level of trust so easily and why should I be expected to?