Kinda sick

[Rocky]

Independent lady not your type, huh?

False. What I am going to say is that I really don't believe that women that are in a relationship have to be hanging out in a one on one situation with another man. To me, that just seems like the woman is asking for trouble. I think the only way I could ever be okay with that is if the guy friend was best friends with my girlfriend over a long timeframe. If she has been good friends with the guy much longer then when I have first met my girlfriend, then yeah, I don't see a big problem with that, as long as I don't think the guy is a douche or anything. If she is hanging out with some guy that I have never heard of all by herself and won't answer my phone calls, then red flags will be going off in my mind.

In the same token, If I'm in a relationship I'm not going to spend time with other girls one-on-one. I don't want to send my girlfriend a bad message and cause drama. That just seems silly to me, and I wouldn't want to be put in that position either. Sure, I have a few really good female friends that I could hang out with by myself if I ever needed to get another perspective on things, but I wouldn't go leave my girlfriend and talk to them by myself if my gf doesn't care for them. I think some mutual respect goes a long way, and how rinaoa is telling it, I don't think that there is any in what she has going for her at this point.

[Shan'do Spike]

False. What I am going to say is that I really don't believe that women that are in a relationship have to be hanging out in a one on one situation with another man. To me, that just seems like the woman is asking for trouble. I think the only way I could ever be okay with that is if the guy friend was best friends with my girlfriend over a long timeframe. If she has been good friends with the guy much longer then when I have first met my girlfriend, then yeah, I don't see a big problem with that, as long as I don't think the guy is a douche or anything. If she is hanging out with some guy that I have never heard of all by herself and won't answer my phone calls, then red flags will be going off in my mind.

They don't have to be, but if the trust is there, what possible benefit do you get out of restricting the girl from being able to do that? Even if it's a new friend, that doesn't necessarily mean she's going to cheat on you. And it seems to me like you're far more likely to engender bitterness by being overly restrictive than you are to get into to trouble by letting her hang out with other guys.

Now, I mean, if the guy's a complete creep or something, then you have some leg to stand on, but otherwise..

In the same token, If I'm in a relationship I'm not going to spend time with other girls one-on-one. I don't want to send my girlfriend a bad message and cause drama. That just seems silly to me, and I wouldn't want to be put in that position either. Sure, I have a few really good female friends that I could hang out with by myself if I ever needed to get another perspective on things, but I wouldn't go leave my girlfriend and talk to them by myself if my gf doesn't care for them. I think some mutual respect goes a long way, and how rinaoa is telling it, I don't think that there is any in what she has going for her at this point.

I'm a trustworthy guy. I know this. My GF knows this. A lot of my friends are female, and some of them I didn't really start being friends with until after we started dating. My GF doesn't get upset by me hanging out with them, but that's because I've given her absolutely no reason to doubt that I'm genuine, because I have been. And I'd be very annoyed if I couldn't hang out with a lot of my friends just because they're female and I'm in a relationship. There's absolutely no reason for it to cause drama if the people actually do trust each other.

[RagnaToad]

If I'm in a relationship I'm not going to spend time with other girls one-on-one. I don't want to send my girlfriend a bad message and cause drama. That just seems silly to me, and I wouldn't want to be put in that position either. Sure, I have a few really good female friends that I could hang out with by myself if I ever needed to get another perspective on things, but I wouldn't go leave my girlfriend and talk to them by myself if my gf doesn't care for them. I think some mutual respect goes a long way, and how rinaoa is telling it, I don't think that there is any in what she has going for her at this point.

That seems kind of immature. I don't mean to be offensive but limiting your group of friends because it might send the "wrong message" to your partner is just stupid in my opinion. If you're both mature, trustworthy people who love eachother, everything is going well and no one has ever cheated on the other one, I don't see why you can't hang out with someone of the opposite sex. There's always going to be "tension", but only if you recognise the tension. I think you as a couple should get passed that. Just saying. But if you're both agreeing to not hanging out with people from the opposite sex, I guess that is ok, in some weird way.

As for the actual topic:

Your boyfriend sounds like a total asshole and is simply put a hypocrite. He obviously feels no need to tell you where he's at while you should feel guilty for hanging out with a male friend?

That's just wrong.

Quite frankly, that doesn't sound like a relationship. I don't understand why you're still bothered by the guy's response to what you do. If I was in a long distance relationship and my girlfriend would behave like that, her reactions would start to lose their importance. If he's going to behave like a total asshole, I don't see how he can call himself your boyfriend.

Especially in a long distance relationship where you can't hang out, have sex or do anything together.

[Rocky]

That seems kind of immature. I don't mean to be offensive but limiting your group of friends because it might send the "wrong message" to your partner is just stupid in my opinion. If you're both mature, trustworthy people who love eachother, everything is going well and no one has ever cheated on the other one, I don't see why you can't hang out with someone of the opposite sex. There's always going to be "tension", but only if you recognise the tension. I think you as a couple should get passed that. Just saying. But if you're both agreeing to not hanging out with people from the opposite sex, I guess that is ok, in some weird way.

I never stated limiting my group of friends, it's just that in a relationship, I wouldnt be randomly hanging out alone with some lady friend of mine while my girlfriend is busy doing something else. Too many avenues to start drama in my opinion. I also would think that my girlfriend would feel the same way about it as well. Stuff like that builds trust. Yeah, in the past I would have my lady friends and my gf would have her guy friends, but neither of us hang out with them alone all the time and not answer phone calls/texts when we're away. That to me seems like something that isn't ok in some wierd way.