What the shit

[Rowan]

You broke up, you both moved on. It's neutral ground. If it wasn't an email, if she walked up to you on the street and issued that apology to you, you wouldn't ignore her and walk away. You wouldn't tell her off. Not unless you're a sociopath. You'd most likely offer some polite words and be on your way. Rowan said something about denying her any sort of attention is the only power you have left from that failed relationship, but that's severely childish thinking. You're not in a relationship with this person, so it doesn't matter if you have power or not, unless if you're really insecure, but that isn't the impression I get from you.

All she's doing is issuing an apology. She made no mention of trying to bargain her way back into your life. I guess my advice is don't be a dick.

Obviously you have probably never felt the embarassment and humiliation of having someone cheat on you. Dignity can be a hard thing to regain to some people, others not so much. Im not judging Pete, I know hes a cool dude but I dont know what experiences hes had. All im doing is offering my advice, which I believe will allow him to leave his dignity in tact. I will say that I dont believe I have ever been cheated on, but I have been in a relationship in which I believe I was being humiliated at the time.

I believe I tend to know a great deal about these type of women. The type of women who sends a random message to an ex partner 4 years later with an unwarranted and pointless apology. They want attention, validation and redemption from their past actions.

Do not give her the satisfaction. Theres nothing childish about that. She wronged you. Its not about being "the bigger man" thats such a ****ing load of shit everytime I read that phrase. It essentially means "go against your will to become the biggest pretentious prick you believe you can be" dont bloom into the flower of faggotry because you want to be 'the bigger man'.

If someone murdered your wife or family member clint, would you forgive them if they asked for it and be the bigger man, or would rend them with a blunt knife?