Is wanting to be alone all the time, normal????

[Assassin]

I always wanted to ask you guys this question that is wanting to be alone all the time normal. I could never really understand bcoz some people think its not good and m just really puzzled.

[The_Dream_Recluse]

I always wanted to ask you guys this question that is wanting to be alone all the time normal. I could never really understand bcoz some people think its not good and m just really puzzled.

There's nothing wrong with wanting to be alone - a lot of people tend to want that freedom from time to time. However, in reference to a permanent basis - well i personally enjoy being alone most of the time, but even i do tend to want to have some kind of social interaction.

Humans are generally a species that try and interact with others of their kind. It's how we are designed. But, i think wanting to live in solitude is also a good thing as it helps people get in touch with themselves and who they truly are without the distractions and pressures of society getting in the way.

Just be careful that you don't stumble into depression. That s**t creeps up on you when you're alone for extended periods of time.

[Yoko]

Basically what he said above.

I won't go out of my way to be alone though. If someone wants to hang out or have a drink, I will join them. If someone wants to stay the night at my place or needs someone to be there for them, I will. Just don't make it an every day for a year type thing. I have my own life I need to attend to, and they have theirs. I would expect the same from them.

Sometimes I have my own shit to deal with. Other times, I just need to relax/sleep/write (things that keep me from being absolutely alone, but at the same satisfying my need to be 'alone', or 'away'). When I'm around the same person/people for a long time, I get annoyed. I'm pretty sure they get annoyed of me as well. It really depends on my mood and what I went through in that specific week.

[NikkiLinkle]

I like to be alone most of the time. But I do enjoy a little social interaction. I mainly get this from work. I'm not very social at all. I like to keep to myself, I don't drink or go out, I feel quite uncomfortable in that scenario. I tend to avoid physical, social interaction at any cost. I agree with you, The_Dream_Recluse, being alone too much, can result in a depressed mood/feeling. I myself struggle with that quite often.

[Unknown Entity]

I love being alone. Other people only tend to frustrate and tire me. I've only a few friends who don't make me feel like that though, but no more than three people.

I seek out alone time. I lock myself up in my room whenever I can, and lately I've been craving more and more alone time what with work and stuff. Where I work in a busy retail store, I deal with hundreds of people a day, and while serving (most of) them makes me happy at the time, I'm thankful when my shift is over.

I also tend to avoid social gatherings with friends. I'm very different from my friends, and they enjoy going to pubs and clubs, and being around loads of people with loud music... That's my idea of hell. I'm also not really a big drinker, as much as I love a drink now and then. I also don't like the idea of being home later than 12/1am after a "booze up" as they call it.

That said, I know I'd be sure as hell lonely if I didn't have any sort of human interaction. I've spent a lot of time feeling alone in the last three/four years where most of my life has been spent in my room, working on coursework, being unemployed, being in a relationship where my partner was over five and a half thousand miles away, etc... in a way, I'm thankful my new job has chucked me into the deep end of social interaction.

[Michael Swayne]

I prefer to be alone. Everyone asks me, "Michael, aren't you lonely being at the house by yourself?" I tell them that I like being at the house alone. I love the quiet and peacefulness that solitude brings, especially living out in the countryside.

There is a big difference in the words "alone" and "lonely". I may be "alone", but I am never "lonely". When you're lonely, you crave the feeling of social interaction. My work at the paper gets me all of the social interaction I need, 550 people door to door.

[Pete]

I'd think that wanting to be alone all the time may be a bit of a problem. It really stems on what it comes from. Are you just tired of dealing with people and their bullshit and drama, or are you afraid of social interaction? There's a big difference, and I don't mean that to sound nearly as offensive as it does.

Personally, I can go either way with it. I love to be around my friends and other people, but I hate being in overly crowded places. I also love to go out and do new things, and bullshit with strangers, but I honestly don't like people in general. Scratch that, it's more that I dislike most of society, but I can get along with individuals.

Regardless, I'm good with or without people.

[Rocky]

I'd think that wanting to be alone all the time may be a bit of a problem. It really stems on what it comes from. Are you just tired of dealing with people and their bullshit and drama, or are you afraid of social interaction? There's a big difference, and I don't mean that to sound nearly as offensive as it does.

Personally, I can go either way with it. I love to be around my friends and other people, but I hate being in overly crowded places. I also love to go out and do new things, and bullshit with strangers, but I honestly don't like people in general. Scratch that, it's more that I dislike most of society, but I can get along with individuals.

Regardless, I'm good with or without people.

^ Pretty much what Pete said, ditto. I dont mind dealing with people all day, but I have days where I'd much rather be a recluse as well. If I had too much of one and not enough of the other though, then I start getting cranky/depressed, and that's not good for myself.

[Taco-Calamitous]

This year when I went on a camping trip with some of my closest friends at a private campground, it inspired me to coin the term, "I like some people, but not everyone." If I could just be a part of a small society where I did some task or another to fulfill my part, and lived with like 10 or 15 other people, I'd be fine with that. ...hey, anyone wanna start a commune with me?

...I suppose that isn't really being alone, though. But I do like my alone time from time to time (and most of the time, my job is perfect for that.) Most of what Pete said, I can relate to (except maybe bullshitting with strangers.) I do think that wanting to be alone sometimes is normal. Most people like alone time, unless they're some kind of crazy, super extrovert. In which case, I might want to punch them, because they're probably also one of those people who have to fill a silence with some kind of small talk, or else they feel uncomfortable. Ugh. Anyhoo...

Wuv, Yer Mom

[The_Dream_Recluse]

Today is a perfect example of me wanting to be around people my own age. My entire family is off doing varying things this weekend, whether they're working or out with friends - everyone except me. I'm doubly pissed off because i was under the impression that i would have to babysit this weekend and now i found out i don't have to.

What makes it worse is that i had been invited to one of my closest friends' 20th this weekend and now i can't go since it's out in the middle of the nowhere and the only way to get there is for my friend to actually pick me up which is nigh impossible now since the party has already started (goes for 3 days).

*sigh* it's times like this that i hate being reclusive.

[Halie]

To be honest, I think it's more normal to want to be alone all the time than to never wanna be alone in my opinion. Like people who just cannot be alone even for a little while or it drives them crazy.

There's this girl I used to be friends with and one day me, her and another friend hung out. At the end of the day, the other friend left and I said I needed to leave to walk my dog. So, the girl decided she'd come along to my house while I got my dog so that I could walk her home, even though she only lived a couple of streets away. I thought it might be because she was afraid of the dark or something, but when I asked her, she said she just hates being alone, even for just that short amount of time. I didn't mind walking her home, I just found it to be kind of abnormal.

As for myself, I like being alone sometimes, especially after a long day of being around lots of people. If they're people I know, it's not too bad but if I've been surrounded by loads of strangers all day I get really shy and feel like retreating to my bedroom or something. But if they're my friends then at the time I'd prefer to be around them than on my own, and I kind of miss it when we leave each other. Soooo, it just depends.

[Judge Magistrate]

It's not weird to want to be alone. I'm a situational person, I have days when I really don't like people and I want to be alone. Than there are days when I feel like a cassanova and want to be around people.

[Peachesonfire2012]

Theres nothing wrong with being alone. Just know your limit caz if your alone to much you'll drive yourself insane. trust me that stuff sucks. one minute your chillin thinking about some game u wanna play then BAMM! your thinking of killing the next door neighbors dog caz it barked the wrong way...or mabey i'm just insane