A thread in GC not made by Spoony

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I like not giving as much of a shit about what other people think of me or the way my body looks. Like it hasn't really changed much, but I remember feeling so fat and gross as a 22 year old (uuuuuuughhh) and now, I have way more days where I think my body is pretty cool. It does stuff. As for the rest of it, it's way easier to set and maintain boundaries for myself without feeling like I'm not being "enough" for everyone else.

I do not like having to stretch and foam roll or else deal with a sore knee after my runs. 23 year old me didn't have to do this shit.

Can't believe that was a big deal for you, especially you. But go you! I hope everyone can achieve that mentality.

Being an adult does complicate things, but I will say I do enjoy the independence. I do worry that there will be a day when the world will progress beyond my abilities to adapt, but it is something we'll all undergo so I suppose I've nothing to do but welcome it when it comes. In the interim, I'll be defiant till the last and continue creating and exploring. Who knows? Perhaps I'll be the one to lay the foundation for the things I won't be able to comprehend in the future. The very least, I can be satisfied by that.

That actually sounds like a pretty satisfying ending. If something I did paved the way for progress in the future, I'd be super happy and proud. Keep doing whatever you do!

[OceanEyes28]

Can't believe that was a big deal for you, especially you. But go you! I hope everyone can achieve that mentality.

Haha aw. Thank you. And yeah, it's not so much an unwillingness to speak my mind (lol), but I had some trouble setting boundaries for my own needs and feeling justified in doing so. Like, it's not okay for my husband to continue staying out drunk all night, especially after I've told him it upsets and worries me. But somehow, I felt guilty for expecting that he care for my feelings the way I cared about his. But it's way better now. I am still working on letting myself tell people I'm upset when I'm upset, but I am in a relationship now where I take care of him and he takes care of me. And when I say I'm upset, he wants to hear about why instead of getting angry with me for having hurt feelings at all. I'm not carrying my partner around like a backpack or a fuckin cross.

So yes. I am happy.