Shall I? Shall I not? Shoul I flip a coin? Yes!!! Or maybe I shouldn't.... urm...

[Neo Necron]

This thread is about indecisiveness

... or is it? (I'm just pure comedy... not)

Seriously, I'm SO ridiculously indecisive. Sometimes I can't make a decision until literally the last minute.

Today, for example. My friend is having her 21st over at Hyde Park in London, which I'd have to take a 2 and a half hour train ride to get to, and sacrifice a day's project work time (which at the moment is very precious as my deadline looms). I've been trying to decide if I should go or not for the entire week, and last night I had still not made up my mind until midnight, when I told her I wasn't going. Even then... I went to sleep completely open to changing my mind. I woke up... and continued to debate the matter further in my head. At 9am, I'd have to leave in an hour if I wanted to go, and eventually decided "OK, fine, I'll go. I'm too much of a workaholic... I NEED to go".

Unfortunately I discover my bank account has pretty much hit its overdraft limit and there was physically no way of me getting the money out to get on the train... so here I am (I really need to sort that out)

So yeah, I'm ridiculously indecisive. I'll 'make a decision' but still be trying to decide whether or not I should change my mind right up until it's too late.

How's about y'all? Am I the only one? Is anybody the total opposite?

[Hell's-sword]

Yes i am the same i have to think long and hard and still dont get an answer and i do this over every thing from how many sugars to put in a coffee to going out at night. Do you think we might need help or is this compleatly normal?

[Pete]

I'm fairly decisive. On little things it's always a fairly easy decision, like do I wear this shirt or that, etc. Other times, when it's a somewhat important purchase (like dropping lots of cash on baseball equipment) I'll do a shitload of research online, followed by going into the store, seeing what feels the best and then going online again and looking for the best deal. It's not so much indecisiveness, but rather being incredibly picky about making sure I have exactly what I want.

As for situations like Joes, 9 times out of 10, I'm headed to that party and either busting my ass to get the work done ahead of time, of pulling an all nighter or two and finishing up afterwards. Somehow it almost always works out.

[Xeim]

Oh I'm totally the same way. In fact, right now I'm wondering if I should actually be typing this. I don't post a lot in random places, because when I see a thread I want to post in, a mental battle ensues. xD Frankly, I don't know what the big deal is going to be if I post. I'm a member, I'm supposed to post. But my mind still has to argue with itself.

It's down to every little thing for me. I have to make sure that I wear my hair the same way everyday, or wear my make-up exactly the same, because if I decide to maybe do something else, I'll wonder if it'll look better another way, or if it would look best if I didn't do anything to it. So, a half an hour later, I exit the bathroom with my hair looking rather similar to the way it did when I went in there. -_-

Same with food. When my parents ask me what restaurant I might want to go to when we go out for dinner, I'm able to narrow it down to two restaurants, and then they have to decide for me because otherwise we'll never eat. xD Oh, and don’t even mention how I decide on what to eat… we always have to tell the waitress “Just one more minute.” Several times.

And, it's the worst on (multiple choice) tests. I generally have pretty good "guessing skills," so when I don't know the answer to a question, it's easy for me to narrow it down to the ones that it might be. However, you can guess what happens next. I'm almost always, without fail, the last one done. Always. xD But I always do really well too, so what can you do. xD

Before I stop rambling, I'd like to mention something that I remember from when I was much younger (I think I was five?). I was a total bookworm, and I was in one of those programs with the local library where I got prizes when I reached a certain number of words. I remember going there at one point to collect my prize (a plastic keychain. Hah.), only to find they had a plethora of colors for me to choose from. =O It took me about fifteen minutes to finally choose.

But the thing I remember most, is that the lady who was helping my mum and me was getting impatient with me. She kept saying to my mum "How hard can it be to choose a color!" My mum was nice though, and helped me to feel better about my decision after I had made it. But, I also remember not feeling confident about it for almost a day after making it. And I kept wondering what would’ve happened if I had chosen another color.

I also think its when I really realized my indecisiveness. I remember asking my mum “Why is it so hard for me to make a decision?!” I don’t remember what she answered, though, lol. It was waaaay too long ago.

Now that was when I was younger. I haven't gotten much better. Now, I spend three hours (no joke) in a bookstore trying to figure out what manga to buy, and go through a ton of different combinations before finally deciding. And, I usually decide on one of the first few combinations of volumes I pull...

Decisions, Decisions. They'll be my downfall, someday. I’ll bet you anything.

(Well, here goes. Post Reply button here I come!)

[Draken Benvolaid]

I have a ID thread about this.

Times running out for me...

What should one truly try to accomplish, what is right or what is needed? Each hold different outcomes whichever you pursue. The right holds is correct in understanding at the time, while the needed holds what is correct in the coming future. What you may think is right, may not be for the impending future. This question alone has plagued me for years since birth…, maybe even before then… It has never once been easy no matter how many times I must make it.
Should one save the girl’s life or let it be used to find the kidnapper’s hideout, stopping them forever?
Should one keep fighting to the end or retreat saving the lives of your soldiers; surviving to fight another day?
Should one prevent a war to keep people alive or let it happen, knowing that it will put an end to all conflicts for the coming generations, down a better path in life?

Is it time or place that makes the decisions different for each person? Will waiting and biding time make the decisions different or make them harder to make; limiting your possibilities?
Even when you look past the problem to the place where the answers are or could be, there is still no easy way to make the decision. Do you send your forces to battle where they may lose, just to give other units time to attack or do you withdraw them, keeping them alive in order to mount a safer, yet less effective attack? Which is it?
How will the world handle your decision? Will they look down upon it, or praise you for your efforts? Will the choices you make be beneficial to the world or will it hurt it more than help? Will the people who die because of your judgment just become more numbers to the public, or will it cause other to hate you for their lives?
Because of my incoherent decisions, I’ve been called both a savior and a heretic… a hero and a monster… both human and inhuman… You are supposed to grow cold to things after a while, yet why can’t I to these decisions? I have to death, but never the decisions that lead to death. Will there ever be a decision that always will lead to everyone keeping their lives? Do they really have to die in order to protect?
When you try to do both of what is right and necessary for the future, will it ever prosper? Will it ever come out right the way you want?
When you wish to be neither a marionette nor a master, what path is left? Is it a path that goes beyond honor or pride? Will you just die quietly or go out in a way that everyone will see? Or will it even matter? For the last one…, No I guess it never will…

[Furore]

I'm usually very decisive. That said there is one thing that can cause me to be indecisive. If I'm confronted by several people with conflicting stories and none have any real evidence of what they say.

Even that'll generally only take me a little indecision though as I can usually catch a person out. I just figure if I screw up, chances are I can fix whatever the new problem is.

[Bleachfangirl]

I'm not at all decisive. I can decide and chose things when it really matters...but that's really just me being stubborn and headstrong. Little things like picking a place to eat or a movie to see really screw me up though. I can't decide what I want to do half the time, so I spent most of my day trying to decide what to do. Trying to figure out what to do or how to do things wastes a lot of time, but I can't make up my mind. Here are some fun examples:

-I take 15 minutes when I get home to decided what homework to do first.
-I leave it to my mom to decided what I eat for dinner.
-I CANNOT got to a buffet without freaking out.
-I always take longest at the table to decide what to eat.
-I can't look over multiple choice answer tests because I fear that I will end up redoing all the questions. O.o

That's me.