Say if this happens to you

[SuperSabin]

Ok just to start off, i'm just brainstorming here and I'm curious to see what you guys say. When a person makes a mistake, do you...

A: Walk out on them and hold a grudge
B: Leave them alone for awhile then talk it over when things settle
or C: Simply look past the mistake and forgive them

My response to the situation, sometimes I go with option b and there are plenty of times i'm able to go with option c. It depends on what you're up against of course and there are mistakes that are pretty bad. Just assume its a simple, common mistake everyone makes.

[che]

It's totally situational. It's not like I have set options to choose from. Question is also pretty vague. Are you sure they made a mistake and you aren't the one who did?

[Heartless Angel]

Mistakes are mistakes. Depends who makes it I suppose. If it was someone I acually gave a rat's ass about, I likely wouldn't even care. If it was somebody I already disliked, I'd probably just ell em to go **** themselves, since I was probably on the verge of saying it anyways, and not have anything more to do with them. If it was somebody who NEEDED the moment to themselves, I'd back off and confront them later. There's no one size fits all solution for any problem, and trying to find one is rather pointless.

[SuperSabin]

It's totally situational. It's not like I have set options to choose from. Question is also pretty vague. Are you sure they made a mistake and you aren't the one who did?

From the question, its if the other person made the mistake. Not trying to be vague about it, just decided to jot this question down for brainstorming purposes.

[Meigumi]

Option C. It depends on the mistake, really. Even if it was a "simple, common mistake", it may be a mistake I would consider "the most fatal, life-threatening mistake that I would never, ever think that could/should see the light of day"(Okay, maybe I exaggerated too much, but I'm sure most you guys know where I'm getting at.)

[Victoria]

It's situational like Che said. There's not really a set way to answer every single time, but mostly it's either B or C.

[rJ floW]

You usually let it go, unless its something serious, like causing bodily harm...but always keep in the back of your mind that they did make the mistake, because most people repeat their mistakes. And you don't wanna get burned twice.....

[Pete]

It really depends on the mistake. I mean, I usually wear a rubber, so I don't have to worry about any mistakes.

But in all honesty, it really boils down to what exactly the mistake is. Some are far more grievous than others, and have the potential to cause far more harm than others. In general though, I'll usually berate the person based on how severe the mistake was, and that'll be that. No use in holding grudges or being a ****, unless the mistake is constant; at that point, we call it stupidity.

[OceanEyes28]

Haha... I was telling a friend about this today. I'm pretty much all love, and I don't hold grudges very well. I said that and he said, "I don't know, Alisyn, I can see you cutting ties with someone." And that's true. But it's not really an anger thing. Eventually, if I keep getting hurt, I just become indifferent and have a hard time loving that person anymore.

I forgive easily but it takes a while for me to open up again once I get past a certain point.

um.... so yeah, B and C I guess.

[Unknown Entity]

Depends on the person and what they've done. I know that when I'm angry with someone, my first reaction is to lash out or go completely quiet and become withdrawn for a while. Mostly the later.

I eventually forgive, although I can sometimes hold a grudge. So... all of those options apply to me in different shapes and forms.

[Diyala]

For sorrow after dealing with people different times I concluded to the fact that you should put boundries , Coz if not ppl will do wrong over and over without thinking that this hurts and we're done bearing .
I forgive at first, but if the same person did another mistake
that was hard to forgive I will use option b , coz I don't like to have hatred inside my heart and prefere to reveal what bothers me about that person and what he did , then we are both equal and satisfied ^^
Mostly I don't take everything seriously and be blind on tiny rediculous mistakes that aren't done on purpose .
so we used to forgive but when it hurts we are not to ignore the pain .
nice thread ,thanks
Himi

[Pete]

Yknow, the mistake that really bothers me the most, and really gets a reaction out of me is when I'm at Dunkin and I order something like an egg and cheese or sausage, egg and cheese on a cinnamon raisin bagel and get it on a croissant instead. It's happened at least five times between the two that I regularly go to.

The first two times I let it go, figuring they were busy or misheard me (a long shot, I know), but the next three, I'd gone back and have it remade, since it's happened more than once, and I ****ing hate croissants. I told them that if it happens again, I'm throwing it at the window.

Usually I'm really forgiving of mistakes, but when it's the same one that keeps getting repeated, it really pisses me off. Hell, I wouldn't even get mad if they used a different kind of bagel, but I really hate croissants. They flake everywhere, and I usually eat my food while driving.

[Freya]

I guess it depends on the mistake the person did.
Normally, I tend to forgive people after a few hours, or minutes, if it wasn't a bad mistake.
But when people really get on my nerves and make a mistake that REALLY bothers me, I'd say that I need to get distant and avoid the person for at least a day. Then, probably, I'll forgive the person and everything is fine again. ^^"
All in all, I forgive EVERY mistake a person makes. Sometimes, though, I change my opinion about a person.

[Trunks]

I'm generally quite laid back about most things. I have a habit of letting things slide. Like some people said though it depends on the mistake. If somebody calls me 'Brian' instead of 'Si' I'd probably just go ahead and respond with a laugh, maybe throwing in some sarcasm 'no no, call me Brian...' etc etc. If somebody just ran over my dog because they weren't looking as they backed off their drive- I'm going to show them the hard end of a sledgehammer. It's difficult to judge reaction without knowing the severity and context of the situation.

To answer your question in a more helpful way Id say most of the time, for me, it would be C. Again depending on the variables of person and context.

[CloudvsLightning]

hardly ever c .... mostly a and b ..... no matter what the situation unless i am feeling rather patient

[GameMasterGuy]

A little bit of each, depending on the situation.