Quote Originally Posted by RagnaToad View Post
He's not.

But he's not being very subtile. Che's right about the power thing. Ignoring a girl has a huge effect on her. Girls don't really like it when you're being all obsessed about them, unless you're already in a realtionship with them.
Che's post was chock full of sarcasm, but there were a lot of semi-truths in his statements. Obviously the "give them the cold shoulder" treatment doesn't work with every girl, because they're not all the same; however, it does work with some.

Now, I'm not saying be vindictive and do this in an attempt to win over the girl who already told you she doesn't want to date you. If you honestly want to be with her (and it seems you really do), the best I can suggest is to take all of the posts in this thread and wrap them up into something that works.

Back off a lot, and if she asks why you're spacing out so much, then just back off a little at that point. Don't go balls-to-the-wall overboard until you figure out what she's wanting.

If she still makes it clear after having a lot of time to reflect, then give up on the girlfriend-relationship and save what you have of the friend-relationship.



I will note, however, that I won over Rebecca by showing very minimal interest. It worked even moreso in my favor because I knew she was the determined type, and I wasn't really jumping at the opportunity to date a subordinate (company policy, ethics, and all). It got to the point where the friendly flirting turned into serious flirting, and I'd brush it all off like it wasn't a big deal. Then she up and told me herself that she liked me and my response was "aw, that's nice." I didn't say it in a condescending tone, and I blushed when she said it, so it wasn't particularly rude.

That same night, she was chasing me down in the parking lot stealing a kiss.

The week after that, we started dating.
And then I did everything I could to move to another store. :3