havin' sex or making lurveee

[Rowan]

In your opinion, is there an inherent difference? Is there a way to differentiate? Can making love be rough and wild? or is it slow and gentle? Does it have to be with someone you're in a relationship with? Or can it be with any random 1 night stand?

most importantly, is what you think. If you will be describing personal sexual experiences dont forget to be detailed and accurate (lol, just kidding) but not really. Do it.

Having sex or making lurveee?

[fierytempest]

I think that "making love" is mostly a euphemism.

If we're overlooking that, though...then yes, I think there's a difference. Making love is when you love the person you're having sex with, having sex is having sex, and crazy forceful sex is f**king.

Personally, I don't think you can have crazy, off-the-wall sex that's "making love." At least, I never have. And frankly, I don't want to have all that slow, sweet sex that "making love" is.

[Sheechiibii]

I believe that it's all just words really. The act itself is exactly the same, whatever you call it. Saying that there is a big difference in sex, it can feel very different depending on the relationship between the two people. 'Making Love' is a way of explaining the sex when it's coupled with strong passionate feelings which makes a huge impact. So in conclusion, yes there is a difference, sex is just sex 'making love' is sex with someone you love.

[Lily]

i hate the term making love, its far too cheesy. Sex is sex

[Joxsjua]

before I start, I want to acknowledge that Rowan is the best 'thread' phisher-man ever. First under boob, now this?!


sex and larvae are totally different topics but let's try..

This is like comparing smokin' 40s and drinking blunts... Having sex is a thing you can do to with the majority and doesn't require many brain cells. Making love is something that requires a person you actually care about and have feelings for.
I'm a firm believer when having 100% trust in a person while having intercourse makes sex infinitely better, but; and hopefully there's a nice butt there.. The truth of it is that if you have a significant other in your life "they want you to treat her/him like a lady/gentleman then, F*** them like your mad at them!"
If you're both totally exhausted, slow and sensual can suffice once in a blue moon.

[che]

Yeah, they're absolutely differen't. (From experience I'm gonna play the straight male) There's just putting my penis in someone's vagina. And there's respecting them as a person and connecting and that stuff, and getting it on. There is absolutely a difference. Doesn't matter what you call it.

[Martin]

Pretty much what che said. I think it also depends on the mood when you are with someone you love so.. I use both terms. I think I'd struggle to just pick one frankly

[Freya]

Pretty much what che said. I think it also depends on the mood when you are with someone you love so.. I use both terms. I think I'd struggle to just pick one frankly

/sign

It really depends on my mood. Sometimes I just want to love someone and sometimes I want to have sex. (... but of couuuurse there's aaaalwaaaays feelings in it *COUGHS* Let's pretend I'm a stereotypical "I connect love and sex all the time" girl I'm not.)


Besides, I really wondered what "lurvee" is before reading the thread.

[Hobaginator]

I don't make love. I make infatuation.

[Crescent]

The difference?? Having sex doesn't require any real emotions or deep feelings; it's ONLY about the pleasure of the act hence the sex/porn industry or the "friends with benefits" situation. Many people are fine with having sex just for pleasure, never caring for the emotional aspects of being in love but Im not one of them. Having that deep, emotional connection between one another makes the relationship and/or the act of sex everytime a lot richer. If deciding between the two, it ultimately depends on my mood..Sometimes his/hers

[midgetbob]

I like to do both... sometimes it's bangarang time... others? Well it's time to give some smooches too... sometimes you gotta say please... etc etc et al.

[ViviMasterMage]

Hi, I am 17 and what is this?

Nah, I'm joking. It's legal to have sex here anyhow. I feel that I share the opinion of people that say that making love is when you love the person or you feel strong feelings towards them and just having sex is having sex, not that anyone will listen to my opinion on this topic. xD

[che]

Hi, I am 17 and what is this?

Nah, I'm joking. It's legal to have sex here anyhow. I feel that I share the opinion of people that say that making love is when you love the person or you feel strong feelings towards them and just having sex is having sex, not that anyone will listen to my opinion on this topic. xD

I listened! High five! I wish you a many great sexes and a many great lovemakings in the future.

[Pete]

It's been said already, and I'll have to agree with it. There's making love, which is a more special and intimate thing, where you're not just trying to get each other off, and then there's plain ol sex, which is also awesome, but much more of just a physical thing.

They're both great, but I think sometimes it's just an amazing feeling to have that connection... and sex!

And che, you did a baaaaad thing. That taco girl and a thread about sex... Fluffy just ruined his keyboard.

[Walter Sobchak]

Sex without love is meaningless, but as far as meaningless experiences go, it is pretty good.

There aren't a lot of things more enjoyable than ****ing, but that feeling you get when you are both in love with each other is pretty nice. That and you know what the other one likes.

Casual sex can feel a bit like a job interview sometimes.

[Lacquer Head]

Who even says "Let's have sex" lol As it has been said before, their are two types, casual and romantic sex. You can make love and be kinky. Terms regarding this are vanilla (gentle love making, cuddling, all that) and kinky stuff ($%@&$^@*)

Personally, I prefer vanilla, I find sex to be over rated, although mixing it with some one you really connect with is probably different, oh well.

[Unknown Entity]

"Making love" is just a cheesy way of saying it. Sex is sex, but it does depend on the person you're with. If its someone you love, then I guess you're having sex because you love them. If it's a fling, then you're just having sex. Either way, it's just sex. You're doing the same thing. But pretty much what che said.

There is a difference between making love and ****ing though.

[che]

"Making love" is just a cheesy way of saying it. Sex is sex, but it does depend on the person you're with. If its someone you love, then I guess you're having sex because you love them. If it's a fling, then you're just having sex. Either way, it's just sex. You're doing the same thing. But pretty much what che said.

There is a difference between making love and ****ing though.

Making love and cheese sounds like a good combo to me!

[Unknown Entity]

Making love and cheese sounds like a good combo to me!

I recommend creame cheese. The chocolate one is yummier. Grated cheddar is too absorbent, and cottage cheese is too lumpy.

[Order]

If you love someone, !#&$ them blind.
If you don't call them a cab.

[Merlin]

The phrase that annoys me is "sleeping with". For example: "Becky is sleeping with Mike". It annoys me because the phrase is misused so much. If you have sex with someone and go about your business, you aren't sleeping with that person. If you spend the night in the same bed with that person, THEN you are sleeping with him or her. Plus it just sounds like you are having really crappy sex. It is so bad it's like sleeping.

[Pete]

Making love and cheese sounds horrible to me... at least one party will be in need of penicillin. At least the way I'm reading it

[Dranzer]

There's definitely a difference. However, I don't buy the idea that you have to love someone to "make love" with them. The term usually implies passion and affection that differs from more carnal experiences (e.g. the straight dude simply inserting his penis into a vagina). It's totally possible to have sex and make love with the same person, regardless of emotions involved. I also think those terms are subjective. Someone might not associate any level of kink with love making, while others might include a rather high level of BDSM in their love making affairs.

In short, there's a ****ing difference, but when you interchange the two often and regularly, it's ****ing fabulous.

[Josh_R]

What I feel can best be described through song.

[seanb]

yea there is a difference isn't there, like you wouldn't describe two people bound in leather and excrement violently riding each other with an audience of infants and dead crows as 'making love' ... for that you would definitely have to lose the leather

[Rowan]

I think we're all forgetting the universal act of love, which is defication and vomiting on one another. That and the mutilation of body parts which includes (but is not limited too) the physical abuse of genitalia and knee-caps. Sex or love? You be the judge.

[Dranzer]

^lolled.

@Sean: Yes, leather would definitely need to be eliminated from the scenario completely. And perhaps the dead crows unless they happen to be in the wilderness where there are dead crows and a bunch of wild infants...

[Martin]

Dead crows makes the whole act seem very Game of Thrones-sy. I'm on board frankly.

[Azuteor]

I think we're all forgetting the universal act of love, which is defecation and vomiting on one another.

I freakin' lolled, but I had to do it silently because everyone in the house is sleeping.

I'd do anything as long as it involves Sofia Vergara. Yumm.

Usually, if I'm doing it with a woman with no strings attached then I'm just having sex with her. I'd be making love to the woman I'm marrying. On the other hand, you could use both versions and it'll mean the same thing except with whom you're doing it with.

[seanb]

Dead crows makes the whole act seem very Game of Thrones-sy. I'm on board frankly.

haha yea a pile of dead ravens that had un-important messages, and was disrupting the love making. a pile of dead crows,.. simply the equivalent of a phone switched off for one sexy evening in our world.

rowan ! haha,... now you've put me in the mood for chocolate ice cream and custard...