Reply With QuoteTo you it's a business transaction. But to them? Nope.
You have to get a ring that is 3 months worth of pay in total.
Okay need some help here. Girls, when your guy is proposing to you, do you expect him to propose with a cheap ring , so that later you will pick out the ring he will buy you? Some people I've spoken to said they have done as such, because afterall, its something the wife will be wearing for the rest of her life. But doesn't that take the romance and beauty out of the proposal? In my view, that seems more like a buisiness transaction and I really want to avoid doing that at all costs. I know what kind of diamond cut she likes (thanks to sister) and thats about it. She is the kind of girl who said she would be happy with a cheap ring just as long as we could be together, so naturally this makes me want to spend a lot more money on it.
So anyway, the question is ladies, would you prefer to choose your own engagement ring or would you prefer your significant other to purchase your ring based on what he thinks you'd like?
Last edited by Rowan; 08-19-2013 at 06:09 PM.
To you it's a business transaction. But to them? Nope.
You have to get a ring that is 3 months worth of pay in total.
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24 karat crack-rock?You have to get a ring that is 3 months worth of pay in total.
Haha!
I may not be a woman, but I have met a few, therefore I must be an expert.
I would say take her sister and her mother to a few jewelry stores, point out a few that you would consider buying, let them drag you around to the $50,000 shelf and waste your time (because they will help you, they just have to get it out of their system. It's like you going to Home Depot). Get their opinion on some of your choices.
Once you feel like you have a good idea of what they think is a good ring, take that with a grain of salt, consider the types of jewelry your soon to be fiance buys for herself and get her something that she will bitch-slap her friends straight in the baby-maker with.
I could be wrong, but I'm probably not.
I mean, if you can be trusted to build an Ikea coffee table, you can probably buy a ring.
Besides, if she returns it and buys a different one, you will probably never notice.
My man knows I'm fussy with jewellery, but only because I don't really wear much of it and I tend to prefer plainer stuff. The few times we've walked by some jewellers, he has stopped and asked which kind of ring I'd like, but he never seems satisfied when I say I like the white gold ones with the smaller diamonds, or ones with simpler designs. I don't need a giant rock on my ring finger at all - I'm happy just being with him. =3
As for getting a cheap ring until getting the real ring? It sounds like a neat idea, but there's no magic to that. You've proposed once, which is amazing, but she'll be expecting you to do it again eventually. Making it the real thing... makes it the real thing, I guess. To me anyway.
That's not to say that I think that there should be some magic behind the proposal. I'd like it more if he surprised me. Also, who's to say I won't be the one to propose? Twenty-first century and all that jazz.
"I used to be active here like you, then I took an arrow in the knee."
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Suddenly... clutter.:
Warning free for over eight years. Feels good.
I want to be surprised with a ring he picked out, but dude just has no taste at all.
Sure he dresses well, but whatever.
I just told him that I'd -really- like a pear shaped solitaire, -maybe- with a band around it or something so it's not like weird looking, but no other extra shit and it must be silver or white gold... Like this:
(that's actually my dream ring, but Tiffany is expensive and they no longer have that exact ring. Bitches.)
So he has that to go on.
Maybe ask her friends? I'm sure if engagement is on the brain, she'll have mentioned what type of ring she'd like to at least -one- of them. Granted they can keep their mouths shut about it all. And given that she's not a social recluse (like me) and actually -has- friends.
Nah, really, how can you possibly let her decide which ring she gets? That's not really how I personally think an engagement looks like. She'll be wearing a ring you chose, one you think looks good on her, one you bought just for her...
I would be really, really disappointed if my future fiancee bought a cheap ring, proposed to me and then said "so, now we'll buy the REAL thing. This is NOT the real thing, it's just a cheap ring to propose to you". I mean... okay, I see why you'd do that, but it sounds ridiculous. Now I know this is way too cynical, but: Will you let her decide how to propose to her as well? Isn't a proposal meant to symbolize your feelings for her?
Mah, I feel like talking so much and making no sense at all, so shortly said: I would be pissed if I were your girlfriend, as I want a ring you like and think I like. I hope this makes sense at all.
As for myself: I don't really care about the ring either. My boyfriend knows what kind of rings I like, we often look at rings together and sometimes he even asks which kind of rings I like. So he'll definitely pick the right one. The one he proposes with WILL be the right one.
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I agree.Originally Posted by Freya
This is one of the few rare occasions where romance should come before rationality.
This. I bought my lady friend a 1.07kt cushion cut solitare. She's the single , most important (also most expensive) thing in my life.
I think I've found what I'm looking for. Its a marquise cut 18kt white gold diamond ring. $4.5k doesnt sound too bad.
$4.5k less money in your bank account is pretty bad in my book.
Edit: Honestly the thought should be good enough but...women.
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So.... When are you proposing to me again? XDD
Id prefer it a helluva alot more if my man were to take initiative and go out n buy/find a ring on his own. One that HE thinks I would like. Surprise me. And if he really understands and loves me, instead of buying a lame engagement ring He'd propose to me with a PS4.
Yes it does. Jesus, that is more cash than I actually have, and is a good chunk of the money I have saved up for a home deposit. My girlfriend better like a house more than a ****ing ring.
She already has lots of rings. #Doesn'tGetIt
I think I'd be more concerned with how you propose than what you propose with if I'm honest. I think that's more important, but then again that could just be me personally. I just think the way you propose is more tailored to how well you know the person, and if you make it special then the ring really won't matter as much at the end of the day.
Okay guys, I really want to thank you for your input. The reason I started this thread was because A couple of people I work with actually proposed with cheap rings deliberately, and their wives later picked out the rings they wanted. I really didnt think that was a nice way to propose, although it seemed like a common thing and I wanted to be sure. I know my girlfriend and she is the type who would prefer me to pick it out and all enjoys all that romantic kind of stuff, probably one of the few times where you can be truly romantic.
@Alpha, its a hell of a lot of money, but I've been saving for 3 years. I would never put a ring before a down payment on a house, I do plan to have at least $30,000 before I move out.
As for the proposal itself, I know she will be incredibly surprised. I kinda wanna tell you guys but then I kind of dont, because I want it to be a secret from everyone before I actually do it. Even though I know she would say yes, I know I'll still be incredibly nervous.
Damnit Rowan. You didn't even say when or how you're proposing to me.
GOD.
(I'm having a Napoleon Dynamite moment right meow).
What the eff man.
also, congrats. Your girl is super lucky. Keep the surprise to yourself and save it for her.
Tell us what you did afterwards.
This is -your- moment. With -your- girl. She deserves that moment. I know I'm the n00b, but I think if you tell us your plans here, it takes away from the moment in general.
Go do what you want. Propose to that lady, then tell us about it later when you're ready to. This is a very special time for you. Enjoy it.
Congratulations.
good luck with it man!
plus she wont be looking at the ring, she'l be looking into your sexy eyes as you ask her
It will be towards the end of next year, if I'm still on the forums and everything goes according to plan, then I can share it with you ". Till the, see you round tha forums!
You know her best so get her what you think she will love and she will love it, but because it came from you.
I personally don't care what I'd get or how much it was or how many carats or if was real diamonds or not. Love and commitment isn't a ring.
Good luck Rowan! <3
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