Do as you would be done by?

[Freya]

This is something I saw quite a lot in the last few weeks.

For example a woman I'm working with (rather: I MUST work with <.<") once said that she's being an a...hole when she sees a driving school car in front of her. She doesn't give any signals, she passes them too fast - she doesn't give a damn if the person in the car is still afraid of driving, to make it short. She said that when she was still in driving school others also didn't give a damn who drives behind/in front of them...
Another example, my sister who told me today that she doesn't signal to let other people know where she's driving. She just drives there. You know why? Because other people also don't signal. -.-

That's basically what this thread is about: The mentality of those people who think that they should do everything bad what was done to them before. But WHY?


As for me, when I see a driving school car I tend to do whatever they do. I signal way too often, like they do. I don't drive to fast, as they (must) do. I remember that I felt uncomfortable back then when I was in driving schol and all the others drove way too fast. I even asked my teacher once why they weren't signalling and he just told me: "That's because they already have their driver's license." Okay. -.-
Perhaps I'm just too soft for this cruel world, but I don't want other people to experience all what I had to experience. xD" They WILL experience such things sooner or later, but I don't want them to do it because of ME. xD"

So it's basically: What you did to me, I'll do to all the others.
And I think that's wrong.
What do you think about this?

[Sean]

if I see someone in a situation I once found myself in that was highly uncomfortable, I find it my moral duty to do my best to put them at ease. I like to think of myself as a good teacher because of this.

Case in point: Someone starts a new project at work they have no idea what they're doing. This project was hardly explained to me when I had to do it myself, so I had to ask a lot of questions and receieve a lot of "you don't know wtf you're doing" looks. I always offer to lend a hand to this person. I give them clear concise instructions and details to make life easier for them, where as when I went through it I had to just guess and make mistakes. I personally thrive on knowledge, and I'm always willing to pass the knowledge I've obtained on.

I believe in SOME cases it's alright to have no sympathy because you had no sympathy, but I can't think of any at this time. It also depends on who the person is on wether or not they require sympathy. If someone's put into a shitty situation where they could use a helping hand or sympathy, but they've just been an absolutely horrible person to me, then.... no, I will not go out of my way to make their life easier. Otherwise, I usually do, or I just avoid that person like the plague, in the case of a timid driver or such, I'll give them plenty of room and get away from them in the process.

I hate bad drivers with a passion though.

Edit: I think that method of thinking should be reversed. If you had a horrible time in drivers ed, shouldn't you think it fair that you try and save other people from having to experience that, rather than forcing someone to also experience it?

Morality is dead.

[GypsyElder]

Speaking of signaling, Some dumb F**k the other day, driving a monstrous truck decided it would be a good idea to switch lanes at the last second, with no signal. I was driving a decent speed. There was not enough space for that huge truck to try and ninja it's way in there. If I haven't slammed on my breaks with all my might, I would have smashed into him head on. I wouldn't take it out on someone else nor would I pull a stunt like that.

But, I would take it out on that guy. I'd love to sock him in the testicle for that. In general, the whole "What you did to me, I'll do to all the others" is just immature in my opinion.

For example a woman I'm working with (rather: I MUST work with <.<") once said that she's being an a...hole when she sees a driving school car in front of her. She doesn't give any signals, she passes them too fast - she doesn't give a damn if the person in the car is still afraid of driving, to make it short. She said that when she was still in driving school others also didn't give a damn who drives behind/in front of them...

Also that doesn't make any sense, why would she do to those drivers, what made her upset to begin with. Silly...

[Taco-Calamitous]

I think that mentality stems from bitter feelings towards the world in general, probably. Or just thinking "if I can get away with it, and it amuses me/makes me feel good..." Because a lot of people are very inward-focused, and don't give a damn about how their actions may effect someone else. Or, maybe they think they're performing some kind of "tough love" on others. What lesson is supposed to be learned from this? People suck, I guess. Sad, but true. Anyhoo...

Wuv, Yer Mom

[Pete]

I'm a little torn on this. On one hand, when it comes to driving, I'll do everything by the book, unless it's a case where I have to just swerve out of my lane to avoid something stupid, but even then I'll try to give a heads up signal to the others behind me. I don't think it's right at all not to signal for any reason, and it's a major reason why I think Pennsylvania is retarded. They have some law where you don't have to signal if you're on the highway going either above or below 40mph.


However, I also believe in fairness when it comes to the roads. If I let a car merge in front of me on a ramp, I won't let anyone else, and I'll be a **** about it. It's a simple 1 to 1 ratio, and it keeps the traffic flowing. I also HATE the people who drive on the shoulder in traffic jams, just to cut ahead of everyone else, so yeah I will intentionally ride a little bit wide just to stop them from cheating everyone else. I don't care where you have to be, we're all stuck in it.

As per everything else, it goes on a case by case basis. Usually, I'll help people out, and would expect them to help me out if I needed it. However, if it's one of those situations where I deserved what's coming, I'll just man up and take the hit. I'd expect the same from others if they got into similar situations.

[RagnaToad]

I think that mentality stems from bitter feelings towards the world in general, probably.

Indeed.

Some people don't like to see others having a better or easier life, albeit just in certain situations. They feel like it's unfair that they had to suffer, when the next generation doesn't have to, because of some new law etc.

Like some old people complaining about being hit at school, but instead of being against that, they're criticising how young kids are too spoiled and don't get enough tough love. I think they're just like 'Well, my life may have been hell back then, but I turned out alright'.

I hate that mentality.

It can feel like you're the only friendly person on earth when you're being kind and helpful, but everyone feels like that some time. So that doesn't mean you shouldn't be nice anymore because 'no one else is'.

People have become too cynical in these modern societies.

[Rain Lil]

Man, that's so messed up.

Personally, I'm not like that. I'm not a mean person at heart. I try to take everyone into consideration. Just because everyone else does it, doesn't mean you have to do it too. It's like peer pressure in a way. You can't give in! Just be yourself, if you're rude at heart, then you can't really change that, can you? But if you're kind and you see everyone else being terrible to others, don't do it too. We have enough of those crazies out there.

I try to be different. I'm a nerd, for one. I know people who won't study for a test no matter what. But me, I study until I can teach the material. I like to know I can get A's on a college exam. That doesn't mean I'm all uptight, shiet, I can party too. lol

You know what I mean? =D