I'll be honest. I'm not a vain person, but having a romantic relationship requires SOME sort of physical attraction. In terms of conventional beauty, I believe that a aesthically beautiful woman with no self-confidence is less sexy than a less atrractive woman with confidence. Chances are if they have confidence, they will take care of themselves, be healthier, and have a healthier lifestyle.

Some are blessed with extrordinary good looks (Hayden Christensten for example), but really have nothing else to them (like how Hadyen Christensten can't act to save a dying orphan).

Personally, if I don't find someone repulsive, it is possible for me to maybe date them. I believe if two people truly have that special chemistry, its very easy to overlook imperfections. I dated a guy that I had no physical attraction to whatsoever. We had some awesome chemistry though, and really that was my longest lasting relationship. If I had a choice he'd be dark hair, tan skinned, dark eyes, and toned.

I belive what you've found is someone who you can be best friends with, but you have no chemistry.