Misogyny. If I get the impression that a man feels superior or entitled to me or any other woman by virtue of his genitalia, I am not interested. That's gross. Also, if he perpetuates the idea that relationships are no fun and aw man, bro, I gotta go out for a night with the boys because my girlfriend isn't any fun to hang out with.... rude. Going out for a night with friends and no significant other is fine and a great idea on occasion (I do it and encourage it myself). Doing it because beer commercials say it's cool to ditch your lady (lookin at you, Coors) is not.
Someone who gets angry easily is a turn off. In relationships, you inevitably have disagreements and I don't need someone freaking out every time there is one. When someone can discuss how they feel rationally and sympathize with what the other person is saying, those disagreements are over with way faster and we can get back to having sexytimes.
I don't want to be involved with someone who thinks they have to take care of me or that I should take care of them. I want a partner. We take care of each other. Mutual respect. Warmth. Someone who thinks of sex not just as a way to get off, but as a chance to savor another human being for who they are.
Men who treat women and relationships (and sex) well exist... and they are awesome (speaking from experience). Likewise for women treating men well. Or... men treating men well or women treating women well or whatever gender you're involved with, there are nice members of that gender out there. Thank god. Basically, almost all my turnoffs have to do with having a shitty ****in attitude.
And then I prefer someone who is active. I'm active. I exercise and eat well. I am drawn to someone who does the same. One doesn't need to have the "perfect" body - I certainly don't. But a commitment to a lifestyle of taking care of yourself is something I look for in a partner.
Smoking cigarettes turns me off. It means I'm going to worry about you if I date you and you are probably going to die relatively young if you keep it up. That makes me sad. I don't like to be sad.
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