I know what you mean, and it definitely irks me. On a similar subject, I'm greatly annoyed by musicians who are focused more on theory and tradition or complexity than whether or not the piece is actually involving.

I'm a musician, but I'm almost entirely self-taught. And by no means do I say that with the intent of coming across as smug; I'm currently struggling to get a good grip on music theory, and have a hard time remembering things as simple as scales.

On the other hand, I've been recording my own compositions and playing the piano/keyboard for years by ear, and consider myself to be a competent musician. It's just that when I talk to other musicians, they often come across as elitist and eccentric. It could just be me, but when I hear people talk about their "favorite key" or chord progressions/time signatures instead of the actual song and the feelings it invokes, I get a little frustrated. Especially when it seems as though they're talking theory just for the sake of sounding impressive.

Also, I despise Math, which is probably why I struggle so much with Music Theory. I'm trying to learn it and I can see where it would help, but I get impatient with the elitist attitude of many of my music teachers and classmates. I'll end my rant here for now because I feel like I digressed a bit from the original conversation, haha, but that's my opinion on musical elitism.