A serious question regarding the FFT culture

[Unknown Entity]

Hypothetically (or not): You have children and you die tragically. Let us suppose that there are no family members or whoever else to take your kids. Are you close enough to someone through an "e-based" forum well enough that you would trust them to love and care for your children? To supply their material needs, through personal sacrifice if necessary? To give them love and attention as they would their own?

You know, it's actually a hard question for me to answer. In a way you're asking if I'd rather my child go into care and be put in a home with a total stranger to me, or make prior arrangements to have my child sent to someone I knew well online. There is but a small handful of people online who I trust at this moment in time, and if I still trust them in ten years time when it's more likely I'd have had children, then I see no problem provided I'd met this person before (and I think I plan on meeting most of them at some point anyway).

Fair enough, the place they're homed in could be just as good as a place at my e-friends place, but at least I'd know the person and they'd know me and how I'd want my child to be raised. A foster carer or a person who may adopt my child will most likely raise them how they want, because no one will know what I wanted unless they'd spoken to me.

So here is the side question that everyone could answer. The same situation applies (you have children, and your untimely death). If you had to choose someone to care for your kids, the person that you choose... would you want them to teach the kids *your* values/morals/religion/faith or is it cool if the they taught your kids *their* values/morals/religion/faith? Is there a difference between the two? If so...which would you rather the kids learn?

If I had chosen someone to look after my child - my flesh and blood - I'm pretty sure I'd trust them well enough to raise them well. Of course, there would be a few things I'd want them to make sure of, like making sure my child goes through every stage of education possible for them so that they have a chance for a decent future, and that they don't fun away/hide from their problems and deal with them as fast as they can, and how to manage money, and... you know, as I'm thinking about it, the list could go on.

At this moment in time, I can't say I have many values/morals to teach a child of my own because I'm still young, and have no intention of having a child for many years to come. But I hope that whoever I leave my child in the care of shares similar values/morals to me.

When it comes to religion... I'm an atheist, but I wouldn't expect my child to follow me and be one too. I believe religion is something private and personal between the believer and what they believe (a God, maybe =P). That would be up to my child to decide when they get to the stage when they feel they want to think about it.

To finish... yes, I think I would be able to leave my child with an e-friend, if I trust them enough and have known them for years. I would like to think that whoever I leave them in the care of would be able to teach them some good values/morals, hopefully my ones and even ones I wouldn't have been able to.