At this age I'm not sure the impact would be so huge. I've known my parents for a very long time, so I think that while I may be interested, it'd be weird to do anything drastic for the purpose of "knowing where I came from." I'm more or less set where I am, family-wise... and the fact that my "real parent(s)" never lifted a finger throughout my lifetime to try and see me would really make the whole experience uneasy. Maybe if I was younger, it'd be a very different story.
That being said... I don't think I can truly imagine the circumstances. I remember back in elementary school we wrote wishes on paper or something, and a girl wished to meet her real parents. I didn't think about it much until now. She seemed perfectly happy when she was around her adoptive mother... so I guess despite having great parents, the fact that you "don't know where you come from" can nag at you constantly for any number of reasons. At least, at that age.
My aunt could not have children, so she and her husband found an alternate route. Last I talked to her, they still haven't told their children about that fact. She's pretty scared about doing it... she really cares about them, for sure, she's just very scared of how they may react. So it can be tough for both parties. It's not just a matter of honesty.
Originally Posted by Andromeda
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