I think what people are misunderstanding is the intention behind this movement to stop saying things like "don't wear that" and instead saying, "don't rape." It's not so much that we think we can convince a rapist of anything. It's changing the culture that makes women and men afraid to report their rapists because authorities/friends/family won't believe them or will ask questions about what they did to deserve it. So many rapes are never reported, because the survivor thinks, "What's the point?" And who could blame them? When a country laments over the tarnished reputations of rapists rather than the well being of the survivor, what are we supposed to think?

Recent example
Steubenville High School rape case - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
During the course of the delinquent verdict on March 17, 2013, CNN's Poppy Harlow stated that it was "Incredibly difficult, even for an outsider like me, to watch what happened as these two young men that had such promising futures, star football players, very good students, literally watched as they believed their lives fell apart...when that sentence came down, [Ma'lik] collapsed in the arms of his attorney...He said to him, 'My life is over. No one is going to want me now.'"
Nevermind the young woman who went through sexual assault, had it filmed, was humiliated, and is now BLAMED for her rapists being convicted of rape.

If a survivor doesn't do everything exactly right, according to society's standards for a proper rape victim, she (or he) has very little hope of getting any kind of conviction for her attacker(s), and very little hope of being taken seriously. Has she had sex before? Bad news. Has she had a one night stand that she consented to before? Well OBVIOUSLY she'll consent to ALL sex so CAN she EVEN be raped? Does she go out drinking with her friends? Does she go out drinking with MEN? MUST MEAN SHE WANTS TO GET ****ED I GUESS. Does she wear something that makes her feel sexy? Because it makes her feel like she looks good as hell, and she has a right to feel that way without thereby consenting to any and all sexual encounters with whoever wants a piece? WHAT A SLUT. Did she dare to walk somewhere (even just to her car) alone at night, like any other goddamned adult might like to be able to do? TEMPTING FATE, REALLY. Is she overweight? WHO WOULD RAPE HER? Is he a man? HE SHOULD FEEL LUCKY HE GOT LAID BECAUSE MEN LOVE ALL SEX RIGHT?

A survivor of sexual assault has been through enough. They don't need to hear all the ways THEY could have stopped it from happening. They are ashamed and humiliated in the worst possible way, completely vulnerable, and the response to that should never be "well what were you wearing and were you drunk or flirting with him?" It should be "He/she was wrong to rape you, and it is not your fault."

I'm in the camp of requiring "enthusiastic consent." You should know without a doubt that the person you're having sex with wants to be having sex with you. None of this "well you didn't explicitly say 'NO.'" People are awkward and scared, and not always as strong or powerful in a dangerous situation as we'd like them to be. Or sometimes they're blackout drunk. Or drugged. Or handicapped. Or children.

I was trying to avoid jumping into this, but I felt like I needed to share that distinction. It's a society that lets rapists get away with impunity because we interrogate the victim first. It's one that can have a group of young men standing around saying things like "Look how drunk she is, I'm gonna give it to her so good" without one of those young men saying, "Yo, man, that's ****ed up. She's a person." It's one that can stomach casual conversations about how much of a "****ing slut" someone is just because of what she's wearing. There's so much hate going around toward women and men who are just trying to be themselves like everyone else. We hate so hard on these people and then feel sorry for the rapists who get caught. I mean unless they're the crazy ****nuts who lock people in their basements, but GOD FORBID it's a handsome college student. Because the idea of telling that handsome student not to rape is SO RIDICULOUS, it must have been something the victim did to tease him and tempt him.

I hope I haven't wasted my time.