Does true love exist?

[Cyanist]

Well, I thought that since we were all sniffing around like mice in a new cage, we might as well have interesting stuff to talk about. :/
With all the divorces going on, (drastically increased in the U.S.) a thought occurred to me:
Does ture love even exist? (yeah, I could watch a Disney film and be disillusioned , or I could just ask you guys) Do you believe in true love? Have you experienced it? Noticed other people who had/have it? Is love just stubbornness?
Your opinion, please?

[Lacquer Head]

The main issue with divorce is due to young immature people that rush into marriage and end up hating each other. It can exist, but it's not easy to find, methinks.

[Clint]

The main issue with divorce is due to young immature people that rush into marriage and end up hating each other. It can exist, but it's not easy to find, methinks.

Divorce has nothing to do with being young and immature. I got divorced because I cheated on my wife. I was in my 30s at the time. That's not too young.

Anyway, love does indeed exist. For example, I love my dog. I would never abandon my dog like I've abandoned my children, because unlike my children, my dog actually listens to me.

[RagnaToad]

I think everyone has a number of people they could potentially have a great relationship with.

People change, most relationships have an expiration date, but that doesn't necessarily make them less 'true' when they are happening. I also think it's possible to always keep loving someone, but realise you don't function as a couple. Your journey with someone doesn't need to end when you break up.

I think there are rare occasions where people fall in love with people who love them back, and all the pieces fit, and they have potential to love eachother forever. But I think it's weird that people expect that to happen when they are relatively young, and they are still changing and discovering so much.

[Pete]

I think that it does and can exist, but it's something that people have to learn to work at. Sure, some people, like myself can't seem to have a relationship last longer than the two year mark, but there are a lot of people who just work and work well together. It can be any number of things, but I think that the biggest problem is that people are either afraid to speak up when they feel a problem is arising, or they go the opposite route and constantly complain about every little thing that bothers them. You need compromise to make things work.

So, long story short, I think it does exist, but it's not that fairytale Disney bullshit.

[NikkiLinkle]

I think it does exist, but it can occur more than once and it's not limited to romantic relationships. It's a form of unconditional love, but with someone you wanna sex with

It can be difficult to find it, even more difficult to keep it. As life goes on, people change, want different things etc. Which is why we see so many relationships fail. Which isn't a bad thing, as long as you are true to yourself and your partner. Some people make decisions, that betray the trust of their partner (cheating for example), instead of just being honest about not wanting to be there anymore. Or sometimes, people just grow apart. It happens. It's not wrong and it hurts, but it's a part of life.

Relationships are about 2 people coming together (majority are anyway, depends on YOUR relationship. But most people seem to be monogamists). It's about enjoying one another on many levels, growing and learning together, being there for each other in good times and bad times. Being honest, trusting, caring, respecting and believing in each other. Accepting each others flaws and differences, considering each other into your everyday life. Being passionate about each other, while still taking care of yourselves as individuals. You are still YOU, but in a couple. You are still allowed to think of yourself, but you also need to think of your partner, but because you want to. It shouldn't be an issue for you to do so. But it goes both ways.

The thing that some people forget is, that you have to actually BOTH put effort into your relationship. Every single day. Some people seem to think it just magically happens on its own, but you have to WANT it and you have to try every day. But it should seem effortless. If that makes sense. Even if it's just something small, like washing the dishes, because they're just bloody dishes! Instead of nagging one another. I think people need to appreciate those simple everyday moments. But life seems to be too complicated, for true love to last long term. But it is possible!

Props to you if you ever find it and manage to keep it And if you don't, no big deal. Life goes on.

[Halie]

I'm still very young so I don't pretend to know a lot about love but I think the term true love is really ambiguous, if two people deeply love each other then of course it's true. It doesn't have to last forever for it to be true and I think that's misconstrued by a lot of people.

I don't really know where I stand on the whole soulmates thing, though. I'd love to believe that there's one person out there for everyone and we'll all find them one day and live happily but there are just far too many people in the world for that to be true in my opinion. And the odds of finding that person would be extremely slim, what are the chances they'd be in your hometown or anything? They're likely to be on the opposite side of the world, speaking a completely different language to you or something. It's just not very feasible.

[Crescent]

I don't know.. would be my honest answer. Im more inclined to say no but then Im not completely satisfied with that answer as well. I think if you believe in something or want it badly enough it'll always be there waiting for you to seek it out. I have more questions than answers. A lot of us have no fkng clue about the concept of true love. Many people enter into relationships in order to fill the huge gap of longing to be whole. Im sure it is this desire-based motivation being the main obstacle to finding true love in/with another. Sometimes when you truly love someone you have to know when to let them go. True love is unconditional and selfless which brings me to the conclusion that fk No I don't believe its possible in this world. Only in my fantasies. People seem to always be on the lookout for a (new) bf/gf, does my fkn head in. It cheapens 'love' and the whole marriage sanctity and what its supposed to stand for. I much prefer a nice friendship myself. I hold true love for my dog and FFVII though!

[Unknown Entity]

Of course it exists. It's up to us to either except it or decide if it's really love after all. I've had more crushes or experiences of lust than I have felt love. Now, I don't believe in soul mates, and believe that love can be experienced with more than one person in your lifetime. That love can deteriorate if you settle too much into the relationship, or become stronger if you keep the sparks going with the little things and continue to grow and mature with each other in the tight bond of love.

With my current boyfriend, before we met, we'd both lived very sheltered lives and I think we've both brought out something more than that in each other. The first date, and the date after we'd had no idea we'd still be together now. He had trust issues and I was in my own state of confusion. Two months later, I think I surprised him during a goodbye at the train station when I said "I love you". It slipped out and I didn't even expect to say it. He didn't say it back that day, but I think that's what love with another human being is, in a way; a surprise or moment you don't expect. I've never once expected it, and found it in different places.

Also, true love doesn't have to be with another person, and can be completely platonic. It can be with an animal or food, or object. I love my dog and chocolate chip and nut cookies.

[Martin]

All I'm going to say is myself and Cilla. That is all.

[Dodie16]

I used to think that it did exist (I saw happy couples all the time) but for whatever reason it just wasn't existing for me, and not for lack of trying either. I was sort of getting a little bitter about it too, to be honest. Was tired of being alone, but also tired of getting nowhere fast. Guys aren't the only ones who get friendzoned, you know And then stuff on TFF happened. Haha. I suppose it's true that love strikes when you least expect it, as cliche as that sounds. I'm sure Tele and myself have a lot of growing to do as a couple still, but I like to think that this is the real deal. ^^ I know what I feel anyway.

[Freya]

I suppose it's true that love strikes when you least expect it, as cliche as that sounds.

That's exactly what happened to me as well, it can't just be a cliche, it must be reality.
(And awwwww for you two as a couple <3)

Apart from that, yes, it exists. I'm pretty sure it does. Of course it's up to everyone to define if he or she has already experienced it. And some people may even think that their one night stand has been true love. It all depends on how you define the term "true love". It's the same with love in general. Everyone has a different definition of love.
As for myself, I tend to think that it's "theeeee true love" everytime I'm in a relationship. So, I think that my boyfriend is my true love right now. And this time I'm really sure! Haha, like everytime... ^^

[Heartless Angel]

Love is just one of the many unpredictable emotions of man. I don't believe any such things exists above or beyond us, only through us. Love is only as true as you make it. That said, I don't consider it to BE love unless both parties have committed to it, and stayed with it. But everyone has the potential to love, it's just a matter of realizing that potential.

[Tallulah]

Y'know, reading the above post has really made me feel a lot better about myself. I have had a lot of trouble with my love life of late, going from 'settling' for someone who said he loved me because I thought it didn't get any better (quite honestly, I think it was through fear of being alone on both our parts; he was very clingy, and that was just one of the many reasons I had to let him go) , to falling deeply from someone who, I don't believe, truly loved me in the first place! That hurt, a lot, and cut me up for a while. It still does, on occasion, and that experience pretty much convinced me that there is no such thing as true love. Not for me, at least. I guess it's just one of those things; you either got it or you don't.

It hurts to realise this sometimes, although I feel I can, in time, come to terms with it. It might happen to me, I don't know; and if it doesn't, no biggie.

[Rowan]

"I don’t want to spend one more second on this earth without you as my wife"

Call it what you want, true love, romantic love, love etc. The relationship between two people who ultimately care so much about each other that it makes them physically ill to be without one another, I would consider that a form of love. I don’t think love is limited to one person, absolutely not. I believe that you can care for someone so deeply that you could be together for the rest of your lives. But with love, comes relationship. With relationships, comes sacrifice, compassion and all of that, it’s something that’s worked at and with time becomes much stronger as long as you both care enough to iron out the things that might be causing a problem. It’s the combined efforts that show how much you care for each other. You don’t necessarily need to have the same interests to love each other, but it helps.

[Catalana]

I don't know, I never met the " true love " perhaps he will appear... maybe no :S I'm a SINGLE LADY hahaha ( I scare men too >...< )