Dating Sites

[Phantom]

Hey all, yes the name of the thread is called "Dating Sites" so you don't have to take a double take. Now, I'm sure everyone or at least some here have been on and or tried Dating Sites to find that perfect soulmate. While some have indeed found there soulmate from a dating site, others who finally meet with the person they want to be there soulmate find that they obsessed over a complete jerk, or ***** (excuse my french). And there's the case of those who tried online dating were found the next day, beaten to death, or raped, or had a case of Stoodup. The questions I'm posing is:

1. Have you ever tried online dating sites?

2. If you did, have you found your perfect partner?

3. Do you think Online Dating Sites are safe? and Why?

4. What is your opinon of online dating sites?

I admit I have hit online dating sites in the past, like Outpersonals, True.com, etc, and met a couple guys who were nice, but I didn't think they were Mr. Right for me. I have a boyfriend but not from a dating site, but from a GLBT club at my college last year ^_^.

Your throughts everyone?

EDIT: I made a Poll, so you all can vote

[Chez Daja]

I think they're stupid.

The vast majority of people using them are either middle aged divorcees or young people looking for a quick dive between the sheets. I'd personally have to be incredibly desperate to use one.

So yeah, I've never used them.

[LocoColt04]

My vote is somewhat opposite of my response. I voted 'yes' because I don't see a problem with them, and I know a couple of friends who specifically used dating engines and actually managed to get something good out of it. My only advice would be to take caution, because there are a lot of creepers out there.

I've never used a date-finding matchmaking type of website before, and I intend to keep it that way. I won't deny that the thought has crossed my mind once or twice on occasion, though. I suppose that answers your first question and negates the second one.

As to whether or not they're safe... I don't think any of them can ever be "truly" safe. There's always going to be some risk. Even the person who appears perfect in every way could just be the perfect liar. Still, I think some of the ones that end up with TV ads are probably doing pretty well, or they wouldn't be able to advertise like that.

And my opinion? I used to think the notion of hooking up through a dating website was pretty silly, but you know... it's really not. I mean, what is it? It's just another form of communication. It's not terribly different from meeting some random person in a bar or a club somewhere. The only real difference I can see is that you've got some crack team on a website who pulls the strings to get you a person that matches your cravings. In that sense, it might be even better than trying to get a hookup at a bar or something like that. You never know, I guess.



On a side note, I have actually met quite a few people from the internet; probably something like a third of them from here at TFF, and the rest from a couple of other forums and YouTube and the sort. I just have yet to do any of that stuff through dating sites.

[Zardoch]

I'd say while these sites are generally silly (and the fact at how much it cost monthly to use them on the popular sites with RIDICULOUS prices), I don't see much use for them. On the other hand, both my oldest sister and cousin married someone they met over the internet, so it's not entirely a bad idea to use them. I mean years ago, I use to do some online dating, often going out with girls from sites like this (RP sites, gaming sites, etc etc), and it wasn't all that bad. I even met a few of the chicks I went out with. Despite the general perspective from people that online dating sites and online dating itself is stupid, sometimes it's better than the alternative.

A good example of what I mean is, well, my own town, lol. Sure, there's "nice" girls around, but 98% of this place is filled with cowgirls, high-maintenance ho's, and trailer trash, country-loving rejects. The closes thing to a "geek" in my town is the bookworm type or the anime-loving fangirls I hate oh-so much. So honestly, online dating sites can be godly compared to what I put up with in my town.

In the end, online dating sites aren't bad to use every once in-awhile when you're out-of-luck. I just wish the prices weren't so overpriced.

[Fluffy]

Although I wouldn't personally use one myself, I don't think they're bad in any way. Even if you get with a someone you see in some random place, you're meeting someone you don't know. You have to get to know them after that. Dating site, same thing.

That is not to say, though, that I would not date a person I met online. I'm simply saying I wouldn't go to a site for the sole purpose of finding someone. But that probably has nothing to do with it being a dating site. I wouldn't go to some "real life" place for meeting people, either. That's simply how I am. I don't actively look for unknown people to date. I am the type to instead date a friend who has become close to me over time.

In some ways, I also consider it better. I mean, I consider it the same thing in terms of meeting people. But you have a wider range of people to meet. The chance of meeting "my type" normally is fairly slim. Compare to going on a site that has people that say, "Hey, I'm your type!" all over their profile. Doesn't mean you'll both be compatible, but that never is a guarantee.

[Almasys]

I've never used one *due to being young and such* but those that do and have found their soulmate through it, good for them ^^ But most just use them to get, as Chez mentioned, "a quick dive between the sheets" or some other motive.

But if it works for someone, then I have nothing against it really =/ It all depends on the person ^^

[ChloChloAriadne]

I've never actually been on a dating site, nor looked for a date online, but I have actually ended up dating a few people online simply just because I found them through some other site and it seemed right.

I've dated five people online, including who I'm with at the moment. It didn't work out so much with the other four, but it wasn't bad, haha. Just not a lasting relationship with them.

It's different with who I am with at the moment. I think I just got really lucky in talking to him and finding him, and I think we're perfect for eachother. I'm constantly told by people not to expect anything and that it won't work out, but it's my belief that it already has worked out, as he's helped me out so much, and let me get through a lot of things, and I'd like to think I've done the same for him.

So I don't have a problem with them, but I'd say that it's not a very common thing to find somebody you really love.

[Exxdeath666]

I don't have a problem with them, but that doesn't mean I use them...

[winterborn86]

I use to use them a fair bit when i was younger but i never dated anyone from them, but i did meet a couple of them (which i regret)
When i got older i came to realize the possible dangers of these dating sites and i stopped using them, I mean, you don't know who these people really are, they can say "hey in a 23 year old guy" but he is really a 45 year old perv.

[Clint]

Dating through the internet is stupid. The main reason for that being that people lie about themselves on the internet. Somebody who you think is a nice person, could turn out to be a date rapist... Of course, I have no idea how women could be date rapists... On top of that, I don't know how a woman could rape a man. I'm pretty sure it only applies to man raping woman, man raping man, or woman raping woman.

[Fluffy]

Dating through the internet is stupid. The main reason for that being that people lie about themselves on the internet. Somebody who you think is a nice person, could turn out to be a date rapist... Of course, I have no idea how women could be date rapists... On top of that, I don't know how a woman could rape a man. I'm pretty sure it only applies to man raping woman, man raping man, or woman raping woman.

That does not only apply to people on the internet. Anyone can lie about themselves.. You really never know. Also, women can indeed rape men; many ways of doing do which I would consider unspeakable.

[Secret Weapon]

Well Dad. My opinion about all this is that I found my soulmate on a dating site. She has everything I could ever need and want in a woman. Basically, in my ideal, "perfect". I do find them dangerous and people DO lie about themselves and try to make it seem as if they're as they are based on what you see in front of you. *****es in your language.

And to think the person I was looking for almost 4 years birthday was 4 days after mine... !

[Rikkuffx]

Ive never tried them and never will but I do know people who have and they are very happy.They've been together for a few years and yea they have their ups and downs but so does every couple. I also know a few ppl who have been onmyspace or facebook and used those as dating sites. I personally would never do it because I wouldnt want to waste my money paying for it. I'm fine with just trying to find someone myself or have that person come to me

[Nyghtwynd]

I've used the free ones so far. Honestly, nothing i find is bad about them except i can't find anyone that appeals to me. Might just be the standards i have, but it's not for me.

[Violet]

I don't think it's good to "buy" your date. Naturally meeting someone online is fine when it's through a message board, but when you have to pay to see the person.. I think that's a little overboard. I think internet relationships are perfectly fine when you meet each other on there in a natural fashion.. not through a hookup site. But of course, that IS my opinion. I'm not going to stop people from buying their bride-to-be online. >>

[Meier Link]

Just thought I would put this out there, the concept is a good idea for the most part. finding love on the net is highly unlikely but there is still a chance, and for some people it is the only chance they have. As for people like my dad, he just uses dating sites to get laid which kind of kills the purpose of those site or atleast I would like to think that.

[ChloChloAriadne]

Just thought I would put this out there, the concept is a good idea for the most part. finding love on the net is highly unlikely but there is still a chance, and for some people it is the only chance they have. As for people like my dad, he just uses dating sites to get laid which kind of kills the purpose of those site or atleast I would like to think that.

To be honest, I think that IS kind of the purpose of a lot of those sites now... I checked one out out of curiosity a while ago just after this thread came out and found that when you join you can actually register what type of relationship you're looking for. 'Casual' and 'Adult' were both on that list, which leads me to think that the internet is probably... well, if you're just looking for a lay, it's as good as you're going to get.