Who Is Your True Ally

[Secret Weapon]

On this thread, I want to know your feelings on who do/can you trust. Your beliefs on is it one for all or every man/women for themselves? Whether if it's better for you to think of yourself first and others are placed how you please.

I'll view your opinions first, then I'll post mine.

[Rocky]

I try to put my friends first as many times as I can, but there are always situations where I take it upon myself to speak for everyone, so I have done both in amounts.

Sometimes it sucks puting others in front of you because you get burned and you are more sensitive to the people you do it to then they may return. Some of my friends take my selfless attitude for granted at times, but it happens. Then, sometimes you learn who your true friends are as well. The best way to approach the situation is to treat others the way you want to be treated, and if people cant reciprocate, then realize that in future situations they may not help you if you help them, but don't hold it against anyone.

Hope that is what your looking for.

[winterborn86]

I would have to say my best friend jodie, ive told her everything and she dnt gossip bout it, i cnt trust my family coz they gossip and cnt trust my bf coz hes a lying tw*t an i ave no trust or respect for him hes let me down way 2 many times, but my best m8 has always been there for me

[Draken Benvolaid]

Truthfully, No one and everyone at the same time. No two people are the same, hence they act differently if different situations. For example, you usually can count on an employee to get his work done by the end of the day, but you probably won't expect him to take a bullet for you.

Trustworthy yet unreliable, humanity is always the same. Figuring out when and where to trust people is the real challenge.


As for myself, I've been stabbed(Physically and socially) in the back so many times, I unfortunately have doubts about everyone.

Those I can trust, know I trust them. How far they go is up to them.



Another thing, when you trust someone, you give them power over your trust and what you are trusting them with. Whether to follow through or betray you, again is up to them. Humans fall for several things stemming from their pride: Lust, Envy, Greed, Hate, Sloth, and Gluttony. Each is a result of a person having power. A person overcoming those emotions has chosen to stay loyal to what you are trusting them with, a true ally.

For example:
If you trust someone with returning money back to the safe in the office, and they pocket some of it, they are acting on greed.
If you trust a congress man with the laws to be set, but make them so others get harmed, they are acting on wrath/hate.

"Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man's character, give him power."
-Abraham Lincoln

[Unknown Entity]

There are few people i trust, but i hate to think i can't trust people - i would LOVE to trust everyone. But these days, who don't know who peope are. Its so easy to be a fake, and its hard to spot who they are. Its kinda scary when you think about it!

I trust my family, who wouldn't dare tell anyone my secrets... although my mum is dying to show future boyfriends my baby photo's lol! And i ain't gonna let that happen. The only person i don't trust is my brother - he likes to spread rumurs, no matter how un-true they are...

I trust all my friends. They are just the best, and none of them are traters.

I like to think i can trust everyone, but thats not always the case...

Did that answer you question?

[Rasler+]

I find it kinda hard to trust someone easily. I like putting people into trials; I mean, to test if they could really be trusted or not. It may sound a little scary, but I know how to manipulate situations, I mean, I can act in a scene to make people say or do what I want to hear or see. It's a little weird but that's just how I am.

I began to raise my caution ever since by best friend in high school betrayed me for some girl. A little sad and irritating memory, but that was the first thing that came to my head. I mean, we grew up together, went to the same schools together, and served at church together, and in just one blow, he turns his back on me when I needed him the most. But I guess I never hated him, because I grew silent afterwards.

And because of that, I trained myself to be independent and focused, and I never wanted to have a 'best friend' again. Probably because I'm afraid of experiencing that kind of situation again. Heck, now my colleagues don't even know that I'm 2-3 years younger than them. And now, I only speak when someone asks, and I never add any more information about it.

Even if people say, "I'll always be here for you," "You can depend on me," or "I won't let you down," even my family, something would always tell me that it isn't completely true. Because you can only find out if it's the truth when the trials come, which is why I always do what I mentioned in my first paragraph.

But don't get me wrong: I firmly believe that no human can survive alone, and that's why I keep 'acquaintances'. Every now and then I try to trust, lend my hand to others and help out, but I never give them my trust in full. Instead, I try to be the ideal, trustworthy person that I've always wanted to meet (which, unfortunately, I heaven't really met).

Don't worry, I gradually try to develop myself in socializing with others. I have a lot of fun too. I mean, why else would I smile in my photos?? ^_^

[Furore]

I tend to trust all manner of people with all manner of things. But there's only one person I'd tell everything to.

Personally I've found you can trust almost everyone, but you do always get that smiling bastard who hangs around after dark, waiting to greet you up close and then stick a sharp whatever in your kidney.

Deception can be a damned fine method of attack, and there are some pretty weird people out there. The main thing's to go with your gut or to be very careful if you're the type whose gut instinct is always wrong.

[Secret Weapon]

Many of you have very perceptive opinions about this. But I'm on the same page as Rasler+.

I too have had a "Best friend" and a couple others stab me in the back. One person that has had me confused, these last 4 years was my first love. We've known each other now for 6-7 years and we went together close to 2 1/2 years. She left me the first time because her momma was dealing with some mental issues and she + her sister had to live with her grandparents in Arkansas. To get to the point, she had a chance to stay with me and she left again and never came back. She was EVERTHING to me . I don't hate her for what she did though. She taught me to be independent for myself and not let anything/anyone break me. That is why she'll be the only female I'll ever truly love and trust even though physically, I felt she betrayed me.

Another person would be my daughter's mother. She had me thinking that I could put the same love and trust as I did my first love. Even tho I she was an unintended baby, I still loved the both of them and accepted my duty as a father. I thought she was loyal and trustworthy. I thought she cared for me. I thought the affection we showed for each other was reality. I gave in my relationship with my family to care for my daughter and she played me like I was lil teddy bear. Then grew tired of me when I started come apart and tattered. I'll NEVER trust a female with my heart again .

My method of maintaining prosperity in this world is one's individual actions. Yes, it's good to have friends but it's better to have companions. They will always stay by through any outcomes of actions you take. Trust gives man too much power over an individual. I choose to perserve as much as I can over everyone. I know you can't live without other people in this world, but I'd rather walk my on stepping stones then have people slowing me down with "You can rely on me"/"Don't worry"/"You can count on me". At this point in my life, only God and myself can carry the prosperity of my individualism.

"In God I trust........ my alter-ego" - MasterWeapon1