rejected your best friend?

[Casanova[OCAU]]

so i've just been kissed by my best friend.. and i kissed her back.. and.. i told her i don't think we're right for each other. I've told her this before. I feel absolutely shit. So.. what do I do.

[Rasler+]

Um...why would you kiss her back if you don't feel the same?
...Or if you feel like shit, I think you regret telling her what you just did. If you love her back, tell her.

[Sinister]

I did that too...but uh...it was slightly different.. I had to reject my best friend on account that I wasn't gay...awkward moment right there...><

[Rikkuffx]

Just tell her how you feel. Thats all you can really do. She'll probably be upset but if you dont think you're right for each other you probably arent.

[Dimi]

Originally posted by Casanova[OCAU]
so i've just been kissed by my best friend.. and i kissed her back.. and.. i told her i don't think we're right for each other. I've told her this before. I feel absolutely shit. So.. what do I do.

As what had Rasler mentioned, why would you kiss her dude? If you're not interested in her then you should've been honest about it. By you just kissing her, gave her the idea that you two might have a chance with each other.

If she didn't listen to you the first time, then be blunt about it. Not to the point where you sound like an ass but just tell her flat out. Have you kissed her or flirted with her more than once before? That could be the reason why she wants to be with you...

[Victoria]

I'm with Rasler on this one. Why did you kiss her back if you didn't want to be with her?
That itself is a sign saying that you're interested. And I think you probably do feel like shit because you regret saying what you did, or because you're confused with your feelings and don't know if you love her or not.

And from another perspective, do you really believe you're not made for each other? If so, then tell her how you feel. Though, you should tell her how you feel regardless. Whether you really love her, don't love her, or are confused about your feelings.

That's a situation I'm in with Froggie right now. Except.. she's the one confused, and I'm the one consoling her when/if she needs it.

[Yuki-onna]

Well, I'm not going to rag you about kissing her back...stuff happens, caught in the moment, crap like that. Feelings are confusing. But kudos for telling her the TRUTH: that you feel you're better off as friends. I see how this is an awkward situation; I think maybe everyone has gone through this at some point in their lives.

It's not easy for either of you; but let me suggest you sit her down and have a good long talk about it. Tell her how you really feel, but don't give her false hopes like "maybe someday", if you don't mean it. Giving someone false hopes to try and make them feel better is worse than lying...in my opinion, at least.

Just my two cents.

[Casanova[OCAU]]

Thanks for the words and advice guys. I guess I kissed her back because.. well.. it's my first reaction. I was fairly drunk at the point, but that's not an excuse.

I did kind of flirt with her.. but I flirt with EVERYONE! and she knows this too! It's just my manner of speech!

[Chez Daja]

It was bad what you did, regardless of drink. It's not acceptable, BUT you understand this.

The best thing you can do is be straight with her.

Stringing her along in any fashion just to make sure feelings aren't hurt will just cause her worse pain in the long run. You need to be frank with her. Set the score straight and try to move on with things.

[Jin]

Why is it so hard to understand why he kissed her back? Can anyone honestly say they've never done something they regretted in the heat of a moment or because it felt right at the time? Even if he wasn't drunk it'd be an understandable mistake. Telling her about it is all you can do. In passion, there is always a battle between logic and emotion. You've logically decided it would be a bad idea to be with her, but sometimes emotion wins without an explination. These things happen. You've done all you can really.

[Casanova[OCAU]]

I met up with her later yesterday. We just sat and watched MASH. There was no ackwardness, except when I almost took her top off while being an idiot :s. We're just good friends again. I'm glad.

[jungle.]

Uhm, the last time I had a best friend who kissed me... well, we won't talk about that.

But, currently, if my best friend DID kiss me, I would question if she were on drugs, becasue for one, she's not gay, and for two, well.. it would just be weird.

I had a guy best friend who did kiss me once, lol. We used to just peck on the lips for fun and now and again, we were just really close. Nothing special.

But I know how you feel. Just talk to her about it. Face to face. That's the best way.

[nix]

pfffft ive kissed plenty of women i have no interest in and then some, its just smoochies baby, no big whoop dawg !

And yes i knew a few of these women