Oy Shiva

[Rhaps]

*Oy Shiva is a trademarked sland on the Yiddish saying Oy sivah that I use frequently

Anyway, death. This year at my school we have had two tragic incidents, a suicide, and today a wreck that rendered a girl in unsurvivable brain trauma. Because it's a small program, we've only 300 students, it affects everyone massively. Personally, I dono what to do. Any suggestions?

[Pete]

What is there to do?

Did you know either of the people? If so, you grieve.

If not, it's not abnormal to feel affected by it, but I don't know if there's really anything you can do. If the school has some kind of vigil or prayer services, you can attend that.

It's really up to each person, how they deal with things like that.

[Josh_R]

I am from a very small community. We had a few suicides my senior year. There isn't much that you can do. When you live in a small community everyone usually knows everyone, so it f*cks you up. I don't really know what to tell you in this situation.

[Victoria]

Like Pete said:

If you know them, grieve.
If not, maybe give condolences to their friends or anyone close to that person.

I mean, there's really nothing you -can- do.

[Tallulah]

At age eight, I saw my friend Steven's little sister, Rebecca, I think her name was, get knocked down by a driver going too fast outside the school. I was waiting with my mum for a bus at the time. It happened so quick I thought the car had screeched to a stop and the girl was a dummy who had been thrown out of the car. I can still remember the multicolured knitted sweater and pink skirt she was wearing, and her blond curly hair spilled upon the pavement. It was horrible.

Rebecca later died, sadly. All of the teachers felt really sorry for me in particular, as the whole thing happened about eight feet away from me.

I find it hard to recount the story, but I remember it so clearly. Fortunately this was the only death I remember at school. A few years down the line during my GCSE exams (age 16) some friends and I were wandering across the road about half an hour before the German written paper, one girl gave me quite a scare when she was a bit careless, walked in front of a car, and actually had her shoe knocked off! Thankfully she was okay but I was so freaked out my heart didn't stop thumping until I got into the exam room.

[Rocky]

do whatever helps you grieve best. Only you can answer that sort of question on what to do in that particular situation.

[Xithor]

All you can do is make sure to get yourself some help, someone to talk to in order to get your feelings out because it's never easy to deal with deaths especially by yourself. Hope it gets better