Low Self Esteem

[Ann]

Do you often feel unsecure? Or have you ever had a low self esteem? Sometimes I feel that way.. I wonder how to boost our self esteem and stay confident..

[Che]

Eat well, work out, don't be lazy, and stay healthy for the most part. Anything that makes you feel good without feeling guilty will give you confidence.

[Diyala]

That's good thing to discuss really
Of course all of us have times where we aren't sure of ourselves and have fear to do something we're not familier with coz after all we are human beings like my teacher says flesh and blood , But that won't still anymore If you give yourself what it really deserves of high slef esteem . then how ? just push and of course that needs a little effort done by you .Just think of the things that makes you feel that ? and why I feel that ?
I once watched a TV programme where they were discussing the same problem , the expert said when u feel that you have no confident in something go beyond your weak point that causes your low self esteem and look for the proper ways of solving it ..
I really believe so coz our low self esteem won't definitely come out of nowhere , just we have to fill the space that causes all that.....
Do you think so ?

[GypsyElder]

I'm pretty happy, but there's always something that I think can be improved but I wouldn't say it brings me down. I have my days from time to time where I'm like Ugh....(usually that time of the month) but just make sire you do things that make you feel better, like getting your hair done for example, shopping always makes me feel better

[Jin]

Eat well, work out, don't be lazy, and stay healthy for the most part. Anything that makes you feel good without feeling guilty will give you confidence.

Exercise makes me feel guilty. So many calories wasted. Think of all the starving children in Africa who'd kill for that calorie we so happily burn. Shameful.

[Dodie16]

I think it's normal to have those issues and doubts about yourself sometimes, but as long as you don't dwell on it, you should be fine. Oh, and as for working on your own self esteem issues, it's good to do the things that Che and Gypsy* mentioned, and also to give yourself a daily affirmation every now and again.

It seems to me that some people dwell on having low self, and like to garner sympathy from other people, even when they have no real reason for being like that. Not everyone who has esteem issues is like that, but I had a friend who seemed like she was miserable all the time, and would always berate herself or her life so she could get that sympathy from other people. I guess she liked the attention? Seemed to me like it was the wrong way to do things.

*If you always go shopping when you are "down", then it can become an addiction (just speaking from a bit of experience). Also note that while it does make you feel good temporarily, the underlying cause can still be there, and you really need to work on a more permanent solution rather than masking the problem with material things.

[Josh_R]

I have never had self esteem issues. Even when I was fat I didn't. I have always been a bit of a narcissist. I guess if you are feeling then you could go, and workout. All of my friends with low self esteem say it can make you feel alot better.

[Pete]

In the rare occasion that I ever feel insecure, I drink until I'm not. My awesomeness soon makes it's way out and I become loved by all once more.

I'm not even kidding.

[Priscilla]

I used to have really poor self esteem. For a lot of reasons. I used to be chubby and I was really shy and insecure. But as I grew older I lost my chubby features and dressed better and it made me more confident.

I'm still shy but I have no problems with what I look like. I like it. I could still lose some weight and I plan on doing that when I move. But I have no problem with my body and no one else seems to either. =]

[Furore]

Easiest way is to not take shit so seriously.
When you don't care so much your esteem stays in a nice little upper mid level place.
And it doesn't hurt to remind yourself once in a while that the world is your oyster.

[Ann]

Yeah. I usually feel unconfident on my haid-bad day lol

I always try to support myself whenever I'm stuck on it, believe in myself that everyone in this world has both nice and bad side..

Umm.. I've never had any intention to do selfish things in order to get people's symphaty. Well.. I have friend that always crying all the time just because she has stomachache, or headache, or just broke up with his boyfriend, and there's no one in the class feels sorry for what just happen to her. Rather than getting attention, she's become more isolated and depressed..

[Sean]

Everyone feels insecure from time to time. I have borderline panic attacks in crowded unfamiliar places where I'm required to interact with someone I've never met in a place I've never been to, unless I know EXACTLY what I need to say/ask.

Most of my low self esteem was taken care of a long time ago when I started cooking, always getting ragged on, made fun of, talked down at, etc, it'll either break you or make you stronger, in my case it was the second.

Eventually I just started dishing it back out, I was keeping up with the other guys, and I was doing my job better than most, and once I became a sous chef at a restaurant my ego got pretty inflated, but it was a good thing. I'm not too overly egotistical (most of the time, at least) but I have enough of one to keep me from feeling like I suck.


Everyone has moments, though. My only advice to overcoming low self esteem is to get good at what you do and KNOW you're awesome at it. Not think, not tell yourself, ****ing KNOW it.

[Maridia]

Mine used to be pretty rough. Last year I worked out like a mofo and started to feel good about myself. Then I barely worked out but I realized so much of life is mental and not as much about your looks but general mindset. So now I'm pretty happy with myself and don't have problems with it. I'm no super model but damn fine as far as I'm concerned and that works for me!

[Serah]

I watch programmes about people that are worse off than me and remember its never really that bad :| or if im feeling poopie about myself I put make-up on and do my hair, even if im not going anywhere lol abit shallow maybe but it works for me