How many times of actuality? 18+, kids.

[Yuki-onna]

In response to this "how many times a day" thread, which I thought was quite interesting, I became curious as to how often our members actually get intercourse. Cherry, when you're in a relationship, whenever you can get some?

I used to keep an exact count (god only knows why) but I lost track. I'm probably considered erratic, but if I'm engaged in that relationship thing, I usually break the national yearly average in a month. Only, if that ends, it takes a while for me to become interested again. So I guess I'm average...

Did you know...

18-29 year olds have sex an average of 112 times per year,

30-39 year olds an average of 86 times per year,

40-49 year olds an average of 69 times per year.

So?

[ChloChloAriadne]

Sadly enough, I started when I was.. Erm.. Really young.

I lost my virginity when I was twelve, and saying it bluntly, a pretty massive slut until I was around.. Fourteen? I am ashamed of it, but I don't regret it. Everything I did then has made me what I am now, and I quite like her, so I won't regret any experiences that I've had at all.

With people I've been with.. I don't know. Depends on the person, doesn't it? When I've not been with somebody.. It's basically just been whoever ><. Which sounds horrible, I know.. But I know better than that now, really.

I haven't actually had sex for.. Well, it'll be a year next month now, as I'm with somebody that's not around.

So yep, that's it. ^^.

[By the way, had no idea what I was on that poll, so I just didn't put anything down.]

Edit - =0. Quite a while later, thought I'd re-edit. Everybody has more detail in their post than me.

I lost it at twelve, to a guy I was currently 'with'. He was a sweet kid. I ended up pregnant the second time I had sex. A serious 'you're not invincible' wake up call.

Miscarried. Started having a lot of sex soon after to block a lot of stuff out. That went on for a couple of years until I was about fifteen. I literally cannot count how many people I have slept with, which I am ashamed of more than anything. I don't regret it, because it's made me what I am now.

Settled down a little. Got into quite an abusive relationship. He's in jail now, but we had sex.. Not that much, really. We didn't live terribly close, so we had relashunz about once a fortnight.

Noooow, I'm with a guy that's not even in the same country as me, as most of you know. We've been together for about a year and nine months, and that's about how long I've not had sex.

[Furore]

Hell...

Well my first time was at this party when I was 14. Don't really remember it too well though. Alcohol can wreck my memories like that. And I never had any complaints later on.

Nowadays I think it's been like 3 months? Ah, I abstain now mostly for the girl I love. ^^ Though the thought messes with me a little, if it weren't for her, I'd probably still be going for it every now and then. I blame it on my less than conforming beliefs. It leaves all kinds of 'morality' decisions up to question somewhat.

But there is indeed more to life than just sex.

[Chez Daja]

I have had a total of one sexual partner, and that is my current partner. I am more than completely happy with this sum. I lost it at the age of legality in this country... In fact, it was just before my 17th, so it's a pretty average age for people over here.
I did almost lose it before that, though. I thought of having sex with one of my ex's... It didn't pan out the way I wanted it to, and I hung onto my virginity. I'm glad I didn't sleep with any of my ex's.

I have never been a proper slut or somebody who sleeps around just to get kicks. Definately never been my style. There were times, as a younger teenager, when I thought of it, but it never happened -- to be honest, I just couldn't make myself into somebody like that.

As for how often? Wow. Well, when I get to see my boyfriend, I try to make the most of it. I won't specify, since I'm pretty sure you know what I mean.

[Furore]

Ahhh.. here the legal age is 16, and most seem to ignore it totally.
From what I've read elsewhere different areas seem to follow different traditions where this issue's concerned.

I myself was rarely all that flirty. Just 'popular' within a few circles. ><

I have to admit to taking slight offence at:

There were times, as a younger teenager, when I thought of it, but it never happened -- to be honest, I just couldn't make myself into somebody like that.

Some people are misguided, some did it because they lack the control of for other reasons entirely. Maybe I'm misreading into what you've said, but yeah, people who sleep around can still be great people. They're just doing what they desire. I can only see the real harm when some predator's picking up people who are unsure of what they want. Or something along those lines.

[Walter Sobchak]

I lost my virginity at 14, but 17 the real way.

Once I turned 18 I started going clubbing and cruising for sex. I spent a lot of money on getting people to buy me alcohol to give to girls, and I slept with a lot of them. I have only been in three serious relationships since then, and I was up for sex at least once a day.

Lately I have been in a dry spell. I am not too concerned with it though. I don't really crave it the way I did a few years ago.

[Chez Daja]

Some people are misguided, some did it because they lack the control of for other reasons entirely.

...So you mean rape, right? I've never had accidental sex with anybody, neither has anybody I know all that well...

As for misguided, I don't understand. Are you talking about peer pressure? That I could understand a little more, but I believe people shouldn't have to follow in line with their friends. (That wasn't directed at you whatsoever, though, so please don't think I was saying that about you.)

Maybe I'm misreading into what you've said, but yeah, people who sleep around can still be great people. They're just doing what they desire.

I can understand where you're coming from, but I don't agree with it. I was raised not to sleep around with people, and even the thought of it isn't pleasant for me. On the other hand, I have never dreamt of having many sexual partners. The thought of it makes me feel ill. Again, it's not direct at anybody, it's just the way I feel, and that was not only installed onto me by my mother, but also by my views of todays' society.

I hope that cleared a couple of things up for you, Nathan, and that you're not insulted by what I've said here...

On that note;
Sex isn't something casual to me and it never has been. I wanted to be in love before I gave my body to somebody, and that's what I did.

[ChloChloAriadne]

Sex isn't something casual to me and it never has been. I wanted to be in love before I gave my body to somebody, and that's what I did.

Just wanted to say how much I admire that. I always thought when I was really little that I'd be like that.. But I guess there is always a kind of pressure to have sex, and needless to say I wasn't really the most stable of kids XD.

But yeah.. So many people say that, but there aren't all that many stick by it, and I think it's awesome you did.

[Furore]

...So you mean rape, right? I've never had accidental sex with anybody, neither has anybody I know all that well...

As for misguided, I don't understand. Are you talking about peer pressure? That I could understand a little more, but I believe people shouldn't have to follow in line with their friends. (That wasn't directed at you whatsoever, though, so please don't think I was saying that about you.)


I can understand where you're coming from, but I don't agree with it. I was raised not to sleep around with people, and even the thought of it isn't pleasant for me. On the other hand, I have never dreamt of having many sexual partners. The thought of it makes me feel ill. Again, it's not direct at anybody, it's just the way I feel, and that was not only installed onto me by my mother, but also by my views of todays' society.

I hope that cleared a couple of things up for you, Nathan, and that you're not insulted by what I've said here...

On that note;
Sex isn't something casual to me and it never has been. I wanted to be in love before I gave my body to somebody, and that's what I did.

Nah I didn't mean rape, I was more referring to some who didn't really understand the significance whatsoever. Like 14 year old me for example. And some just did it as it felt good, like a drug it's not the easiest thing to put a lid on, raging hormones and all that.

As for peer pressure I tend to see that more as an excuse myself. It's not something a person should use to defend their own choices. No offense taken on my behalf, it was more wanting to clear that one bit up.

As for that last bit, I respect that myself. It shows strength of character in a way. At least down here...

Thank you for indulging me.

[Jin]

To me, sex is a funny thing. For quite a long time I was barren shall we say. You know, the typical nerdish internet goer. Then I was in a relationship for quite a while with someone that wasn't into sex at all. I honestly didn't mind as I've said in the other thread, I'm fully capable of enjoying myself.

At the end of that, like most people who go through highschool without getting any, sex became the great mystery. You see everyone else getting it and you tend to glorify it as the unatainable. So the funniest thing happened when I finally did get it. During the sex itself, I had the demeanor of a 14 year old in thinking, "I'm getting laid =D" and then when I actually paid attention, all I could think was, "this's it?" It in no way lived up to the hype that it gets. It's possible that it was just bad sex, granted, but I was actually bored and was thinking the entire time, "hurry up and have an orgasm so I can go home." It was that boring.

Also, I hate dealing with people; not a people person at all and I find the pseudo-ritual of courtship (something that I hate) to not be worth it at all in the end. Since then I've decided that going out and looking for sex is not for me. If it happens spontaneously or with a friend I find attractive, then that's fine, let it happen, but I'm not pursuing it.

So to answer the question, once.

[Fluffy]

Ho ho~. A total of 0 times thus far. I'm a virgin, and not embarrassed about it. In fact, quite proud that I've been able to stick to what I want: to not do it with anyone I wasn't serious with.

By the way, you refer to intercourse; what exactly do you refer to here? If I take it to mean what I assume you mean by it, I have to say it'd be quite harmful to a girl I'd like to be intimate with.

Besides, any form of sexual contact with her would be illegal. Doesn't even matter if it's consensual or not, because she can't legally consent. Boo~. Actually, even a non-sexual intimate relationship could get me in trouble.

Anyway, when it comes to her, I'd much prefer hugs, cuddling, and kisses. I would be perfectly happy with just that.

[OceanEyes28]

Siiiiiiiiiiiiiigh

I am in a committed relationship with an incredibly attractive and loving Daniel and if it were up to us, we would be all over each other all the time. We used to be that way, anyway.

But we live in dorms now, and it's really hard to find private time when your roommates are always around. It's been weeks. Maybe a month. And when they do leave, it's like now. At 1 in the morning. When we're both tired and want to wake up early tomorrow.

Anyway. I made the choice to sleep with Daniel because I love him. I like to think we swapped virginities. And I think I made a good decision. Afterwards, there was no regret. Just love. I mean, it was definitely weird to wake up the next morning and think about what had happened, but I've always been happy with it. Haha and thank god it happened with someone who was already in love with me because good lord the first time is so silly. But um... it definitely improves with practice.

It's the kind of sex where afterwards you can sit around naked and laugh and talk in a way that you just don't in your everyday interactions.

It's amazing, and I really miss it.

[Cain Highwind]

Sex isn't something casual to me and it never has been. I wanted to be in love before I gave my body to somebody, and that's what I did.

I want to second that, because that's how I see it as well. Which is sad as, I haven't gotten any yet, and I'm 24, so I feel quite "frustrated" over it. There's a part of me that has a wild craving for sex, I just want to do it. But at the same time, my more sensible side still wants to make it a memorable occasion. I insist to myself, part of being a "Gentleman" is making it all about the ladies, how do they want to do it, what do they want done, etc etc. I'm not submissive in the whipping dominatrix manner, it would just give me joy and pleasure if they were getting the kind of pleasure they wanted (unless you had some kind of absurd fetish, then I don't know).

Since this is a mature topic, I'll share an equally mature story about the closest I've ever gotten to sex. Maybe you girls can relate to this girl and tell me something thats confounded and perplexed me for the past few years. It might help me down the line, who knows.

I was somewhere like 19-20 at the time, met a girl at my work (can't remember her name, I want to say "Cindy", so let's go with that) We go to her apartment to watch a movie. After the movie we start making out, quite furiously, i start to unbutton her shirt eying for approval and she nods. Without getting too graphic, I basically start a series of basically everything you could do to her upper half (at least that I knew at the time): Kissing Caressing, Rubbing, Massaging, etc. I asked if there was anything she wanted and how it felt, but she just gave me silent treatment.

I then moved down to her pants, again eying her approval before I unzipped them. I was very limited here, because she wore really tight jeans, and she had a broken ankle, so she had a big and thick cast on her foot, which made taking them off impossible, and I didn't have such a clear view of her "bottom half". I couldn't actually SEE her Vagina, all I could do is kinda feel around in there. I didn't really know about clitoris stimulation at the time, I only heard about stuff like the G-Spot and fingering so that's what I did. Again, asking her what felt good, and what she wanted. She panted and moaned, but never said anything, and to me, it looked like she never orgasmed, she just said that was enough.

Over the next couple of days she hardly talked to me and seemed distant, and she eventually left a message on my voice mail, saying she wanted to break up. I was then told by another girl, a friend of ours, that she said it "Wasn't me but her"

It just confounds me what I must've done wrong.

Anyway, sorry if this getting off topic. Felt like it was appropriate, and you'd NEVER hear me talk about this IRL, so consider you guys lucky you know one of my dirtiest secrets.

[Sinister]

You're all dirty whores...j/k

I've had sex five times in the last...year. Or really like eight months. Let me put it this way, I was a virgin when I joined this site.

Not a matter of, I couldn't get it or I didn't want it. It was more a matter of...I've got shit to do and if it won't come to me than I'm not going to go looking for it. And that's how it was. I had things to do, classes to attend, books to read, games to play, tourneys to fence. ect...

I would just have to say as a side note, that in my life, I've only met two women I would consider having sex with ever. One I never did and the other is my current partner. But as Ocean has already noted, dorms are not a conducive environment for frequent physical love.

Another point is that I don't talk much and setting up a scenario in which you can copulate takes negotiation at least.

-Sin

[Sean]

Haha, let's see.....

I lost it when I was 15 (she was 14, and had already lost it, I was her 2nd)

We did it 3 times before we went our seperate ways for reasons I just don't ****ing remember.

When I was 16 I had another girlfriend I had relationships of that sort with, and we did it probably 5-6 times a week, at the very least, for the 5 months our relationship lasted.

When I was 17 and moving into 18 I met the last girl I was in a relationshpi with (I'm now 21 fyi) and we did it a ****ing LOT. Like... 10+ times some weeks, especially after we started living together, good god. My best friend always made the comment that my (our) bedroom always smelled like sex. That ended abrpuptly, and around two months before the relationship ended all sex pretty much stopped for but maybe once a week.

The last girl I was actually with was about a month after said relationship ended, and, go figure, was the 2nd girl I had had sex with. We did it once, then I regretted doing it and stopped talking to her.

So all in all I've had 3 partners. With 2 and 3 we did it pretty frequently.

The last time I had sex was Feb. 2005. 3 years.

[Priscilla]

Well. I have never really been into the whole sex before marriage idea. Sure I have nothing against those who go by it and I do think highly of them for sticking to it. But it's just not for me. I don't think sex is that special you have to wait until marriage. But that doesn't mean I would sleep around either.

Anyway, When I was 14 I had been going out with this guy for a year. So I lost my virginity to him and vice versa. But gee, I would rather not remember that haha. We only had sex three times in a span of two years.

The boyfriend I have now (Billy) and I are having sex. But not very often. We have been going out for four months and have only had sex twice. It's no big deal though. I wouldn't mind even if we didn't.

So yeah. I have had two sexual partners. But two out of nine is pretty good in my opinion.

[Chez Daja]

Just wanted to say how much I admire that. I always thought when I was really little that I'd be like that.. But I guess there is always a kind of pressure to have sex, and needless to say I wasn't really the most stable of kids XD.

But yeah.. So many people say that, but there aren't all that many stick by it, and I think it's awesome you did.

Thanks! It was the same case for my boyfriend... He lost it when he was quite old... When I think about it, I got a lot of stick from people wondering why I hadn't already had sex... I will full to admitting I was a virgin to people if it really bothered them to know... If I think I got a lot of stick for it, I bet my boyfriend got a lot more, did he's three years my senior.

We both almost had sex with one ex each, but it didn't happen... It was kind of lucky for us, because from what I can imagine, both of the relationships we had going at the time of being with those ex's were absolute shite.

I think I can also say I admire you for the fact that when you were fourteen, you were able to stop ... "being a massive slut", in your words. I know a lot of girls who lost it at eleven or twelve and carried on and got worse over the years... I think it's good that you acknowledge your past and are as frank about it as possible.

As for peer pressure I tend to see that more as an excuse myself. It's not something a person should use to defend their own choices. No offense taken on my behalf, it was more wanting to clear that one bit up.

I respect that. I do agree with you. However, there was a case in my country where there was a boy of thirteen who got beaten up by people for being a "wussy little virgin". He was bullied so much and was too scared to tell anybody that he went along and did it. I can't remember where the story was, but it wouldn't surprise me if this happened a lot in my country... That kind of thing, to me, is utterly retarded. It's almost like rape because you're almost forcing somebody to have sex.
I don't think the boy was anti sex whatsoever, but as far as I know, he hadn't previously cared about it.

It's the kind of sex where afterwards you can sit around naked and laugh and talk in a way that you just don't in your everyday interactions.

Yesss! But seriously, what is up with that? Maybe the endorphins... To be honest, I've never had sex where I couldn't talk to Andrew afterwards, have a laugh with him... I'm glad to see that he and I aren't retarded freaks who just joke and have a laugh after sex.

Over the next couple of days she hardly talked to me and seemed distant, and she eventually left a message on my voice mail, saying she wanted to break up. I was then told by another girl, a friend of ours, that she said it "Wasn't me but her"

It just confounds me what I must've done wrong.

What the crap is up with that? I doubt it was you, mate, she just sounds like a bit of a douche that couldn't speak for herself or give a proper opinion. Don't blame yourself, she sounds mean.

[Govinda]

I have sex every three weeks. Roughly. My boyfriend comes up to visit me roughly once every three weeks, so...

I live in Halls, but I have my own room with a lockable door, so there's no problems. I've heard my flatmates having sex before too, so nobody around here really cares about how much noise you make (so long as it doesn't keep people awake, haha). All it means is jokes in the morning from whoever you bump into in the kitchen.

I first had sex when I was 16, with Evan, the guy I'm still with. I'd always wanted to wait for the right person. Kissing wasn't such a big deal, but I figured that since I felt I was going to remember my first kiss, I'd remember my first time even more, and I wanted it to be a really good memory. The memory remains wonderful, but more on the symbolic side, if you know what I mean; the first sex sucked since we were both virgins, but I kind of liked that, since it left lots of room for mutual exploration and improvement.

You really don't know what you've got till it's gone. There's a few other long distancers and single people up here; we lament our lack of sex with menthol cigarettes (apparently they contain twice the antiaphrodisiac powers of normal smokes).

It's the best kind of sex, I think, with someone you know inside out and love. No apprehension, no embarrasment at all, no fear, just absolute, complete, unending trust. Good sex really makes a relationship. I know some people might disagree, but I really think that good sex is an integral part of a good relationship. If one of you is ill or something, just hugs and kisses can still constitute that same thing; that show of complete trust. Hugs after sex, with some quality cigarettes. Seriously, I don't know what it is about smoking after sex, but it just relaxes you to death. Some juice nearby. It's the best.

****ING HELL I miss it. Sex on tap for two years...and now it's on a timetable. PFFFFFT.

[Musashiden]

Well, I had my first go at 17. Wasn't all that great... and afterwards I had a bit of a dry spell. Up until this time last year I think I got some maybe 4 times. Then I met my current girlfriend. I was going at it at least 3 times a day. Kinda overwhelming. Now she's 6 months pregnant... so I think I'm gonna have another dry spell until probably June ^_^;.

[Rinoa.Heartilly]

Can't believe I missed this thread ^_^.

I was barely 15 when I lost mine. It was on a playground during the night on the shaky bridge (lmao).

It was about a 1 year hiatus for sex then had sex once again, than another 6-8 month hiatus.

Until recently when I had it 4 -5 times a week for about 3 months. We broke up mid February, so not since then. Sad times for Rinoa.

3 partners. Not bad.

(I'm actually at school right now if you'd like to add the irony)

[Whitney]

I've had intercourse with three guys, and I've been sexual (beyond making out, no intercourse) with a handful (ha!) of guys, and that's just super.

I'm not someone who was ever really proud to be a virgin any more than I'm proud to be brown haired or a female. That's how I was born. I'm not proud not to be a smoker - what have I done to be proud of in that instance? This isn't to say I was in a hurry to lose it, I had sex for the first time when I was nineteen, after reading dozens of books on sex ed, contraception, STDs, erotica, and technique. I'm kind of really interested in sexuality on a big scale. When I finally decide what it is I want to do with my life, I'll be genuinely surprised if it doesn't involve sex in some way. (Current ideas: freelance writer on various topics related to safer sex, sex-positivity, kink, etc; bigwig at a sex toy company *crosses fingers*; sex ed teacher; or something else entirely.)

Anyway, I just came off a three year relationship where he and I lived with our parents, so while we were both adults, we weren't in the most passion-friendly environment. We probably had sex twice a week. Since breaking up on January first, I've had two makeout sessions and nothing else.

^_^

[Nocturnal~Fantasy]

Sexual relations with one guy, we broke up and none after that. But after we broke up, I took a vow of celibacy. That's about it. I've made out with guys since then of course, but no sex.

[postalblowfish7]

i had my man-cherry busted at 18 - and since then (over the last 5 years) i think i've had sex with... 5? ladies? i'm pretty sure it's 5. All but one of them i was in a relationship with at the time, and i've only been with my current lady for almost 2 years now with no one else in the picture.

sex is wonderful. it's a wonderful wonderful beautiful awesome thing. especially when you're dating someone as into it as you are, and when it's with someone as attracted to you as you are to them. the one time i had sex with a girl i was not in a relationship with it was about half as good as all the other times. it's great when you can look someone in the eyes and really feel that emotional connection, the emotional bond that you're feeling, the bond each of you are sharing.

when you're doing it, you've basically smashed through the the final barrier of intamacy - you and your partner, completely removed from your artificial facade (clothing, language, un-messy hair) - just joined together the same way humans have been perpetuating themselves for the last who-knows-how-many-hundreds-of-thousands-of-years. it appeals to the part of our brain that everything else stemmed off from. like a fine wine that makes taste buds in the back of your tongue that you didn't even know were there tingle.

for the time being i'm lucky enough to get it steadily with someone i deeply care for - a committed relationship is definitely the way to go.

[Mr Spike]

Christ, must have been.. July 2006, so i was just 15 at the time. She was a few months younger than me at the time. Went out separate ways almost 2 years ago now, still don't know why...

But i haven't got lucky for nigh on 2 years now.

****ING HELL I miss it. Sex on tap for two years...

I know EXACTLY how you feel

[Sinister]

An update. Having Olivia move in with me has really changed this side of my life.

Since Uni let out, it's been nearly every night. I'll admit that being a virgin when the relationship started out was a decided disadvantage.

Anyway, I really can't talk about it that much. I've never been able to take sex seriously. I can't talk about it all that often, it's just embarrassing, imo. I will tell you that long hot baths are the greatest things in the universe to share.


-Sin

[You]

I guess I would say I have sex reasonably often being with my girlfriend and all. Although she is working in another city quite far away for the moment so I generally only get to see her at weekends. So its more like lots of activity for a short period and then a longish break.

I guess ill say when I lost my virginity and stuff seeing as how everyone else has...

I lost my virginity when I was 16. Ive only had a total of 4 sexual partners since then, im 21 now, and all of them have been my girlfriend at the time. I was never really into the whole sleep with someone you dont know thing, I guess partly because in England (I lived there when I was 12-16) I was considered "Goth" and a bit of a freak because of it, whereas in Finland "Goths" are a pretty common place thing, and as such I wasnt really most girls kind of guy. I guess not having sex while my friends were going crazy rubbed off on me and is why Im not really into the casual sex thing even though there are plenty of my kind of people here^^

[X SlAyEr]

Ho ho~. A total of 0 times thus far. I'm a virgin, and not embarrassed about it. In fact, quite proud that I've been able to stick to what I want: to not do it with anyone I wasn't serious with.

By the way, you refer to intercourse; what exactly do you refer to here? If I take it to mean what I assume you mean by it, I have to say it'd be quite harmful to a girl I'd like to be intimate with.

Besides, any form of sexual contact with her would be illegal. Doesn't even matter if it's consensual or not, because she can't legally consent. Boo~. Actually, even a non-sexual intimate relationship could get me in trouble.

Anyway, when it comes to her, I'd much prefer hugs, cuddling, and kisses. I would be perfectly happy with just that.

Me too i'm virgin and not embarrassed about it but last year when my boyfriend came back from Oregan i was with him in his home and i'm really try to lost it but he wouldn't let me because there is a rule in our country the girl she can lost her mine if she just married and this is gross but now i'm happy with virgin thing because i lost my hope to lost mine so i'm happy with it especially the kisses.

[Phantom]

Hmm... I lost my virginity when I was 10 years old rofl It was with these 3boys they were a couple years older then me like 12-13 lol. I'm not ashamed of it, in fact I quite enjoyed it And of course I didn't try to fight back because it felt soooo good lol, I've been gay from a young age so sue me XD. Over average I must've had about 3 real boyfriends, some were still in the closet, hell I was to cause it was no ones business. I had a few flings because overall they were just..flings. But I have new boyfriend now so... yeah ^_^.

[Rocky]

I have yet to have sex, and I plan to keep it that way until I get married.

Its not a big deal to be a virgin, or for my former girlfriends to either be one or not, because that is not something that I look at in a relationship. Of course I try to stay away from the "loose women" and all, because I feel that a relationship is something that is to be taken seriously and if they have been doing things just to do things then I don't want any part of it. There have been times where I have not been in a persuit of a serious relationship, and I have had "flings" with women, but it never has moved past the whole making out in the car, so yeah.

[dimmufan]

I guess I fit the average for my age. 1 to 2 times a week for me. I'm not seeing anyone, I just know a woman that likes to call me up a lot. I think I like it that way as there is no commitment, no strings attached. We just promised each other that if one of us started seeing someone, then we would tell the other person. I haven't had a girlfriend in just about 2 years, just a f***buddy. And she is nice.