And when there's conflict, be calm. Stick to how you feel. "I feel like you guys are ganging up on me"/"I feel like you guys don't respect me." Things like that. They can't argue with how you feel. And don't let them get you angry so they can call you out on being a child. Be bland about it. Be calm. Breathe. People tend to hold their breaths when they're stressed, but you'll think quicker if you breathe. Repeat yourself if you have to, they will argue with you the first few times you say it. That's my amateur opinion.
I suppose what you can do is try to be the more mature party, and pick your battles. Once you understand someone, you won't be angry with them. So I guess try to understand where she's coming from, wherever that is (you know her better than I do). I know my first instinct when my younger brother says something that comes across as disrespectful is to get a little annoyed, right or wrong. So examine whether or not something you're doing (vocal inflection/rolling your eyes/etc.) is giving her the perception of you not respecting her. I'm not saying for you to let her order you around, but do try to understand her side.
Haha I have to do this in three parts. It sounds to me like (and this is just a guess) she wants you to look up to her and respect her, but she's doing it wrong. And she does deserve some respect (not saying you don't give her any). You can learn from her, for sure. But she shouldn't be going on power trips, and she does need to understand that she isn't mommy. And she shouldn't be saying ****ed up shit like that to you if she really wants to be seen as any kind of female role model for you.
Well, you see, she stirs up arguments on the most stupid things. Like I was in the middle of something today, and she ask... No, she TOLD me to throw something away. I said just leave it there, and I will soon. But she kept yelling at me to go throw away I didn't want to throw away in the first place. And when I was talking back to her, she pulled off the electrical cord, telling me only girls are stubborn and fight back. And how Mom was wrong to bore me as a boy. And then my Mom started taking her side.
Well first I'd suggest taking some deep breaths. I'm an older sister, myself, so maybe I can provide some perspective (I have a younger brother). I'm assuming you want advice. Can you be more specific?
Ally, I don't know what to do... My oldest sister is being a complete bitch, and I'm breaking apart... This the first time either, and my parents take her side, saying she's older, so she's always right. But if that's true, then she'd be God! Everytime I talk back, my pain only grows, and I don't know how much more of this I can take before I fall apart.
Haha you might be. I joined when I was only like a year older than you are now. In seven years? You never know. Admin? I don't think I have time for all that.
By the time you're 28, I'll be taking over the forum! You're on your way to becoming Admin, huh? *jumps with joy* Do we get a party? (See, once I get to know someone, I start acting my usual childish ways! Not that I'm not a kid.)
It's how old I'll be when I should seriously stop coming to this forum. Kidding. My birthday is 2-22-88. 2's and 8's (if you don't bother with the 19 in 1988). So when I was 14 years old and creating this username, I included just one 2 and just one 8. I could have just done OceanEyes, but I guess I assumed I should pick some numbers to make sure the name would be available. Ha. And I could change it to just OceanEyes now, but after all these years, it just doesn't look quite right with out the 28.
I was ask people with numbers in their names: Why the 28?
Guys have a few advantages of their own. Don't worry too much about it.
I'm jealous! Guys don't get extra stuff for being cute! I guess that's a pro of being a girl.
Haha. Sometimes they do? I'm not really "hot," per say, but I am cute. When I worked as a barista, it helped with the tips; but not as much as being nice and interesting to talk to. So... kind of, I guess.
Well, if you take away the ellipses, then I don't seem surprised! But do the looks help you? Like some random guy you don't know starts paying you for your coffee or something?
Haha thank you. I really appreciate that. And yet, you seem surprised.
