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Your teeth are ****ing perfect anyway. You don't need no dental visitations.

What I mean is: second child is a stronger show of commitment than a first child. Like, people have one and then "o fuk we were not prepared to raise a kid together we hate each other now" but then you do it AGAIN so it's like "WE'RE DOING THIS NO MATTER WHAT," which I figure might be what it takes to not get asked about getting coffee with Scott (outside of never going to the dentist again).

I must have missed this 'first' child update.

Haha yeah, I know they've known me and my parents as patients for a long time, but we definitely need to reestablish some boundaries.

Also, the idea that just because I'm divorced, I want to date your random single friend.... Stahp.

Your dentist is really overstepping her bounds...

and here I am barely able to hold a relationship for 3 weeks.

I have been cracking up about this all day.

This sounds like something out of a television show.

How unprofessional of this hygienist.

Originally Posted by Pete

Maybe it's time to switch dentists

I've gone to this dentist since I was a child. Damn you, Scott, whoever the hell you are.

Maybe it's time to switch dentists

You guys are the greatest. Thank you x a million.

Cheers to you who can relate. Part of the reason I'm writing this down is because reading other people's stories helped me when I was in the middle of it. Just passing along experience.

Oh hey I didn't know you kept this updated

I got the story from you already but I hope all is going to be swell for you now! Got you in my thoughts and prayers

Louis CK said it best:

"Divorce is always good news. I know that sounds weird, but it's true because no good marriage has ever ended in divorce. That would be sad. If two people were married and ... they just had a great thing and then they got divorced, that would be really sad. But that has happened zero times."

You can't look at yourself as a failure because of this. Be sad because of the way things ended, but know that it wasn't you. He has issues that only he can sort out when he wants to sort them out. People can ask and tell him to sober up and fly right, but it won't happen until he decides that he has to, or until the courts force him after a dwi or something worse . That's just the way it is with addiction. Hopefully he can get himself right, if only for himself.

Just remember that it wasn't your fault and that you deserve love and respect.

You have my number if you want or need to vent

Reading through this is helping me move on and let go of some things I've been dealing with. It's helping me realize that divorce is there for a damn good reason. We don't need to deal with whatever toxicity that happens in a marriage. It's a horrific thing to go through. The entire process really. Once it's over with maybe my mother will finally be able to see the nicer side of life.

Thanks for sharing. Wishing you well .

It's scary how much I empathize with this. I've... been through some stuff myself.

I wish you the very best.

I say it from a place of giving up control. I tried to control his drinking, his shitty behavior, and how he participated in marriage for over a year, and I had to stop. I take responsibility for my own actions, but I cannot change him or the way he feels or acts. I am doing what is best for me, and that's all I can do. The way he feels is not something that is up to me.

do you say It doesn't matter because you dont care or because whats done is done?

I don't know. Why?

His actions have not indicated love or respect for a very long time, and we were both in denial over that. What he would tell you he feels might be another story.

Either way, it doesn't really matter.

Do you think he still loves and misses you?

So glad you decided to change your life for your own sake, I've not been married or divorced but I have been and stayed in a terrible long term relationship out of fear, out of guilt even but leaving was the best thing I've ever done and I've never been happier. Good luck for the year to come!